A few weeks ago I found out that my favourite band is playing near us tomorow. I mentioned in conversation to my friend (also my ex) that I would love to have gone to see them but couldn't afford it.
Ex then suggested that we go and he buy the tickets. I gave the usual "no its ok, dont be silly" but he insisted as I have recently bought us two tickets for another show.
So I agreed but said not to buy the tickets yet as I didnt have a babysitter. 2 days later he phoned and said he'd bought 2 tickets .
I asked my mum if the kids could sleep there the night, She said she was busy but agreed to have them after 6.30pm. The show starts at 7pm. It will take us 1 hour to get there. I told ex. He was fine with it saying it didn't matter if we missed an hour of the show
Anyway I later had a better idea and asked the kid's other grandma...she only lives around the corner and said yes immediately. So I arranged for her to sleep here, this would mean we could leave at 5pm and get there in plenty of time.
I told ex and he didn't approve saying it was "better for everyone" if the kids slept at my mums. I said it wasn't better for my mum as she was actually quite busy, it wasn't better for the kids as they had school the next day and it wasnt even better for us as we would miss half the show. He then started asking what the sleeping arrangments would be as he couldnt sleep on the couch as he has a bad back. I dont believe this, he's a 26 year old bloke that has never complained of back problems before and anyway, surely a 50+ year old woman's comfort should come first? He then said he couldnt sleep on the couch anyway as he'd need a decent sleep due to the driving he would be doing.
What's he playing at? was I wrong to arrange for the kids grandmother to sleep here?