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Dating multiple people - does it mean none of them is right ?

7 replies

Odiona · 04/02/2021 14:12

So I started online dating and was two weeks off work so I wanted to meet up as many men as possible to see if I click with anyone...basically had a date each day for 7 days ... (I know it’s a lot but it was all short coffee dates). So the weird part - I actually really liked 3 guys. None of them blew my mind but all three of them very nice, good jobs, interested in me, handsome... I though ok I’ll do dinner date next with all three a decide. Well, I’m not any smarter then I was and like all three of themConfused. No crazy chemistry, but they are all nice and would give them chance... what do I do? Obviously don’t wanna be physical with more than one man, but can’t decide which one to choose. Any advice ? Maybe none of them is right if I can’t decide?!
I never thought I would be in situation like this - was trying online dating in the past and never really liked anyone ...or occasionally one guy would be great... and here I am with three potential menConfused

OP posts:
HappyFlamingo · 04/02/2021 14:17

I'm of the 'it takes time' school of thought rather than 'you should know immediately'. So I think it's fine to keep dating all three of them for a bit longer until you decide Smile

eightxmaspaws · 04/02/2021 14:19

Ah... like buses. You wait around for ages and then 3 come along at once.

Go on another date with each. Don't be physical yet and just concentrate on getting to know each other better and find out more about your compatibility. There's no need to rush.

DrR78 · 04/02/2021 14:48

Go on another date with each, and get physical (if you want to)! That’ll almost certainly help narrow the field

Rgy3250999 · 04/02/2021 15:38

Surely the dating will all be on hold now until lockdown is over? In which case, I would keep talking to them but wouldn’t sleep with any of them until I’d done more actual dating.

stout01 · 04/02/2021 15:59

Nothing personal OP but when I read so much on here about how guys can't be trusted etc and then you see threads like this, well you kind of see why....

Odiona · 05/02/2021 20:38

Thank you everyone for replies.
I knew I will get some “hate”.. well I’m honest with the guys and told them I’m not ready to be monogamist just yet and need to know them better. But obviously now 2/3 dates later they are expecting some kind of intimacy ..hopefully can make a decision soon

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honeysuckle21 · 05/02/2021 21:32

Don't let them put any pressure on you. If there was anyone special, I think he would stand out from the rest, maybe you'll have to date more to find him.

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