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Affair advice

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Namechanged155 · 04/02/2021 12:52

Hi,

Long story but my BF has had an affair which lasted several years and is now all over. They were (and still are) both married but both marriages have issues. She is devastated and is both mentally and physically ill because of it and is on sleeping tablets to try and get some sleep.

I know all about the issues with morality etc (as does she) and know this shouldn't have happened but I love her and am finding it difficult to support her through this. She loved him very much and can't see how she's going to cope without him. I'm very worried about her.

Any ideas to help me help her with this?

Thanks.

OP posts:

Whatsapppussycat · 06/02/2021 21:50

@Namechanged155

Great advice AuntieStella, thanks.

I hate seeing her like this, I know she did something she shouldn't have but she was and still is totally in love with him and it's knocked her for six.

She was in love with the fantasy life with him. One without the drudgery of looking after four kids and maintaining a marriage. In reality, she shagging someone who was cheating on his wife and who dumped her when she was dealing with a bereavement. She was emotionally abusing her own husband and helping to emotionally abuse the man’s wife with their behaviour and lies.

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