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[blinkybill47]

Hi

So about a year ago my dp for tic toc ...I didn't know what it was and he'd spend a bit of time on there laughing at some videos... I never downloaded it or asked any questions really.

Now maybe about the same time or about there I'd had a discussion with him as I saw he'd been liking a heap of pictures on Instagram of naked women etc and they're women he knows and has known for many years ...his response is 'well she's got a nice bum what's wrong with that' these kind of things. I told him if doing that is so important to him I don't want to be with him....so he seemed to stop using Instagram altogether.

Anyway I got a tic toc about 3 months ago as my teen children wanted to show me some videos they thought were funny... So made an account
... Dp knew this and made jokes about me following men... Which I don't do and have never done
.... Now he hasn't said anything about his tic toc or I haven't seen him using it for a long time...anyway tonight it just hit me that if he has it it's strange he hasn't tried to follow me or anything so I looked him up... His picture.... No one following him... He has no videos but he follows 75 people... And his profile is private so I can't see anything or who he follows.

I sent him a friend request but he's upstairs asleep.

I have a very strong feeling that these are accounts of women doing all the dancing half naked etc.... Which I will find deeply hurtful.

I just can't see it being 75 accounts of hacks or comedy or motorbikes etc

He just woke up and I asked him if he uses tic toc much he says

-No

I said -oh ok I just wonder why you follow 75 people

He says - I don't even have the app on my phone.

And walks off.

He always leave his phone around and I've never seen tic toc notifications come up... He will use his phone openly in front of me and leaves it beside me when he's in the shower etc I've just not thought to look and now it's a bit late.

I'm a 45 year old woman and follow 137 people on tiktok. They're people that nskd MN e laugh, have interesting content such as living in Iceland or sea fishing in Norway etc, or current affairs, with sons doctors thrown in.
Basically nothing to worry about
Hus phone behaviour on the other gand is weird, but if my oh was to accuse me, I might get arsey too. Or laugh. Not sure which, probs dependant on hormones.
Anyway, there's done really good and informative content on tiktok, it's not just women with boobs

I follow more than 300 people on tik tok, mostly home inspiration and educational accounts. I made an account to keep an eye on my teenager daughter but I spend more time on it that she does now lol. I don't post anything, don't accept follow requests from anyone and keep my profile private, for me it is like watching tv really. I have put my account on restricted and if a twerking semi naked girl comes up I hit NOT INTERESTED and this reduces the amount of those annoying brats that come up.
You need to tell him why you are concerned. His response to your complaint against Insta was, in my opinion, not very mature and not very caring towards you, so be prepared to find something you don't like and think of how you will handle things if you do. All I can say is not knowing is worse, as the constant doubt will eat at your brain like a cancer and cause trouble in the longer run.I know by experience, sadly. Good luck xx