I made a mistake - what will happen (if anything)

[Realitea]

I expect to get a good grilling but here goes

During a row that some of you might remember as I posted on here, dh left me and it was so out of the blue I spoke to a friend for advice
She said it sounds like abuse
I was surprised by this but when she showed me a list of abusive behaviours, I was able to tick two of the boxes. They were all quite vague questions looking back. So I thought oh crap, it must be.
Not thinking straight I called the police for advice (101)
They told me to let the gp know and they logged it
But no further action from the police
I phoned the doctor, told them briefly what it was and just said I was concerned for his mental state.
They said they’d speak to him and checked I was ok.
They never spoke to him.
When dh returned we managed to talk. We went to a psychotherapist and now four months on things are so much better.
I really don’t think it was abuse. The therapist agreed and asked why I reported it.
I was just so all over the place I went with what my friend said and seeing as she’s a social worker I trusted her.
Now I’m worried. I don’t want it on file that I’m with an abuser. The police assured me there’s nothing there but what about the gp? Should I explain to them or just leave it? I’m worried we’ll get referred to all sorts of people now but I’m confident we can just explain and we have the therapist to vouch for us.
I feel such an idiot! I really wasn’t in a good place at the time though and I just feel so awful and anxious about it even after four months

Who do you think will "have it on file "? There are few enough resources to help women who do want help, I doubt anyone will be trying to force help on those who don't.

But a few months ago, you believed you were being abused. You were worried enough to call the police and your doctor. Are you absolutely sure that everything is all right now?.

Can we ask what these 2 abusive behaviours were that your friend highlighted?

It depends very much which 2 behaviours you ticked. If it’s something like telling you to fuck off or stonewalling then obviously it’s not ideal, but they’d be at the lower end of the abusive spectrum. If he’s put his hands on you in some way or controls your access to money then of course it’s a much more serious situation.

As PP has said, police and authorities do little enough to protect women who are in dire need of support. They won’t be trawling through your files to find mention of any potential red flags.

If it was something big then make sure you’re both being very honest with yourselves about the changes he’s made since then. If it’s nothing major don’t let it cause you any more anxiety.