For those still not able to see their DP due to LDR

[pippiphooray1]

It's been many, many months now for me. We had plans for November, then December, and now for April. Obviously November and December didn't happen - but will April?

I am overwhelmingly grateful that neither of us have been ill and are financially stable enough to ride this out - but the longing to be together sometimes winds me.

Is anyone else in the situation were they haven't seen their DP - with no end in sight? We are on different continents, so no bubbles for us...

Sorry you haven't had any replies, I am only an hour away from mine by plane which under normal circumstances wouldn't be a big deal but in this current hellscape we too have experienced cancelled plans and a lot of loneliness We are very fortunate to be moving in together permanently later this month (hopefully!! I'm still terrified flights will be cancelled again) but I can relate. Different continents with no end date must be a million times harder though, so sorry for you. I think to some extent long distance partners were sort of forgotten about through all this, I stumbled upon a twitter hashtag a few weeks ago of people who haven't seen their partners in almost a full year, people who were on track to move in together or get married but needed visas due to whatever country they were in and the paperwork is on hold indefinitely due to everything going on... it's horrific tbh.

My DP is on the other side of the world, we were each other's ones that got away and we got back in touch just before Covid, I had flights booked for May last year

Not looking likely to be this year either

Me and my partner are in the same situation, we've not seen each other since early November. He lives in Essex and me in South Yorkshire. It's absolutely gutting not knowing when we can see each other again. I'm alone with my two children here and have zero support as my family have all moved away. In fact I'm that stressed I've broken out in acne which has never happened to me before.

Thanks for the replies - I sometimes feel very sorry for myself. But we are fit and healthy... I’m thinking it will be nearing the year end that we will only be able to see each other again.

Lost my LDR of 18 months due to covid, as much as I tried he let it all go, heartbroken is not the word for it, I hope it works out for you

@Stuckjuststuck I am so sorry for you. It’s the worst feeling at the worst time. Is it at all salvageable?

I don’t know, he’s so stuck in his own head of what’s happening with him right now so am giving him the space he’s asked for, all I want to do is jump in the car try and make it better, I love him he knows this but it has to come from him

@Stuckjuststuck you have my sympathies. It’s in my mind to set DP ‘free’ as I feel it’s not fair - but I can’t bring myself to do it!

That must be so tough in different countries.
My partner lives an hour and a half away and I've not seen him since before Christmas. I am going to his town for work soon so will meet up, we both had covid back in November and I'm working from home, so in my mind I can justify it... dont know when I'll see him again after that though 🙁

@pippiphooray1 if things are still good with you both no matter how frustrating it is, if your still communicating then hold on a little longer till you can be together, if things where different for me I’d move my life to be with him tomorrow but he holds all the cards, and am just left a empty and very sad

I feel like most people in this situation either see their partner regardless of breaking restrictions, or have just moved in together

@Stuckjuststuck thank you

@Embarrasedaf it’s not possible when we are on different continents...

I know, was just referencing the people I know personally!

Long term, are either of you going to move closer? It seems like a difficult situation to be in regardless of the pandemic due to the distance

I have a child, so couldn’t go move in and take her so far away from her dad, he was in a new job key worker front line wasn’t able to come to me, sometimes it just doesn’t work the way it should

@Embarrasedaf apologies! Yes, there are long term plans to move together - me to him. We met while I was working in his country but needed to come back to the UK for family reasons. He is very understanding. His country has difficult immigration laws - I have a specific work visa that doesn’t allow me to live there, only to work there.
It’s a visa specific to my industry.

@Stuckjuststuck I have DC too - in boarding school. But obviously school is not in at the moment, and so I need to wait it out!

foreandflames can he isolate for ten days and then come to stay? I think many of us 'did the right thing' first time round but it's not reasonable to prevent adults in established relationships to be apart for months in these circumstances. My dp and I live in the same town but see each other every few weeks by timing it so we don't put our parents at risk by increasing their contacts.

When Covid hit last March or rather the lockdowns, I had been apart from my husband and son for 2 months, with plans to go back over in the April as we were slowly moving country. Then the borders shut for 6 months to his country and I finally made it out there in September. I now have to return to the U.K. for a few months for work so I'm taking my son with me this time but will be apart from my husband again. These are the toughest times to get through and I'm not sure how much more I can take. Planning to leave my job as I just want to be with my family now.