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Cheated on me

21 replies

Headismashed0987 · 02/02/2021 01:50

Hi I don’t need ppl to tell me I’m stupid I no I am I got together with dp we I was 18 got pregnant when I was 20 Literally swapped pills and everything changed I worked part time him an apprentice I come home late nite one day I went on Xbox just to play but seen him talking to a girl about stuff maybe I shud bk up his dad had cancer never bothered with him or other kids till just before he got cancer I ended up like looking afta him coz I only worked part time an 5-10pm drove his dad around done everything for him even driving him over the road so he cud get his own food!! Told me he just felt like I didn’t no wot he was going though an that I excepted it but now I nt a foul!! So about 6 mouths ago I Found out my bf of 15 yrs but was bad coz my dad died my mum owed us money he was going though shit with work an decided to go it alone fully supported him!! Wot a Foul he thinks I am
An he is talking to that slut an slept with two sluts he paid For with sex!! An then on top of that he got a cleaners number from work an they av been texting I do t no wot they talked about he deleted it
Before I got there with him he says it’s my fault coz I don’t give him enuf sex an she
Talks to him ffs wen did my like turn into this, I don’t need ppl telling me wot a piece of shit coz I no he is I just don’t get it

OP posts:
LizFlowers · 02/02/2021 05:13

Would you please re-write this sorry tale with correct punctuation and spelling as it is very difficult to understand.

I do 'get' that you became pregnant at 18, 'swapped pills' at 20, your boyfriend/partner has been unfaithful, has used a prostitute, he thinks you are foul. In addition you looked after his sick father to the point of driving him over the road to get his food and your mother owes him money.

It is a very muddled story.

Namenic · 02/02/2021 05:25

Sounds terrible op. I think it sounds like you are better off without him. Hopefully you can get an std test and move away from him. All the best.

JorisBonson · 02/02/2021 06:40

He sounds terrible. I'm not sure what you want from this post though?

swinglowsweetchariot12 · 02/02/2021 06:52

Bin him

LizFlowers · 02/02/2021 08:50

@swinglowsweetchariot12

Bin him
Yes - it seems that could be the way forward. He's probably the foul one.

You'll know better than to swap pills in future Confused....at least I hope so. As for driving over the road to get dinner- never again!

LTB

Sunshineandflipflops · 02/02/2021 08:57

I'm sorry, I don't really understand the post, it's very difficult to read without proper words.

But anyone who cheats on you is not worth your time. I found out the hard way too.

Itstimetoquit · 02/02/2021 19:03

Can't understand the post

starbrightstarlight8888 · 02/02/2021 19:12

I can't understand this post either. Op do you have anyone in real life you could ask for advice?

WunWun · 02/02/2021 19:14

I don't understand your post at all either.

Duckberg · 02/02/2021 19:15

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Cheated on me
Pebbles086 · 02/02/2021 19:43

Wow! Worst thing I have ever tried to read on here. Op I do hope you are OK.

Sunflower1970 · 03/02/2021 04:07

Could you rewrite the post so that it makes sense?

welliesarefuntowear · 03/02/2021 04:39

"Before I got there with him he says it’s my fault coz I don’t give him enuf sex an she
Talks to him ffs wen did my like turn into this, I don’t need ppl telling me wot a piece of shit coz I no he is I just don’t get it"

This is the bit that sticks out to me. I am guessing you've written this post whilst very upset.

It's not your fault
He talks to her because he can have his cake and eat it.
You don't get it. Don't even try. So many of us have been there. Don't waste a second trying to understand him. He's not worth it.

Post again when you can Just look after yourself.

Itstimetoquit · 11/02/2021 09:28

How are you op x

LizFlowers · 11/02/2021 21:55

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LizFlowers · 13/02/2021 04:55

Que?
I wasn't the only one who didn't understand the opening post.

Peanutbutterblood · 13/02/2021 06:57

That was hard to follow. Please dont call other women sluts, it's not their fault your boyfriend is a cheat.

Bluntness100 · 13/02/2021 07:20

Ok, I’ll have a shot at deciphering, as I’ve nothing else to do right now. I’m not sure I got it totally correct but here goes.

I don’t need people to tell me I’m stupid. I know I am. I got together with my partner when I was 18. I got pregnant when I was 20. It was unplanned and due to changing pills.

I worked part time, he was an apprentice. One day I came home late and I went on the Xbox, just to play, and I saw he been chatting to another woman on there. I know I should Have ended it, but his dad had cancer, he had never previously bothered with him or his other kids, but that had changed just before he got cancer.

I ended up like looking after his father, because I only worked part time, and between 5-10pm I usually drove his dad around and did everything for him

He told me he felt like I didn’t know what he was going though. I accepted it but I know I’m not a fool

(About 6 mouths ago I Found out he was cheating, we have been together 15 years and are not married, we have been through a difficult time, I lost my dad and my mum owed us money. He was also going though a hard time at work. He decided to go self employed and I fully supported him during this*.

What a fool he thinks I am

He is talking to that woman still and has slept with two other women. On top of this he has also been texting the cleaner from work, although I don’t know what they talked about as he deleted it

Before I was able to properly discuss it with him, he said it’s my fault because I don’t give him enough sex and she at least talks to him.

When did my like turn into this? I don’t need people to tell me what a piece of shit he is, because I know that, I just don’t understand it

Maximum51 · 13/02/2021 08:10

I hope OP you are no longer with this man. Dont let him back into your life.

Set your standards much higher next time so you are treated much better!

SummerBlondey · 13/02/2021 09:03

Can't understand any of this.

Callingallskeletons · 13/02/2021 09:09

@Bluntness100

Ok, I’ll have a shot at deciphering, as I’ve nothing else to do right now. I’m not sure I got it totally correct but here goes.

I don’t need people to tell me I’m stupid. I know I am. I got together with my partner when I was 18. I got pregnant when I was 20. It was unplanned and due to changing pills.

I worked part time, he was an apprentice. One day I came home late and I went on the Xbox, just to play, and I saw he been chatting to another woman on there. I know I should Have ended it, but his dad had cancer, he had never previously bothered with him or his other kids, but that had changed just before he got cancer.

I ended up like looking after his father, because I only worked part time, and between 5-10pm I usually drove his dad around and did everything for him

He told me he felt like I didn’t know what he was going though. I accepted it but I know I’m not a fool

(About 6 mouths ago I Found out he was cheating, we have been together 15 years and are not married, we have been through a difficult time, I lost my dad and my mum owed us money. He was also going though a hard time at work. He decided to go self employed and I fully supported him during this*.

What a fool he thinks I am

He is talking to that woman still and has slept with two other women. On top of this he has also been texting the cleaner from work, although I don’t know what they talked about as he deleted it

Before I was able to properly discuss it with him, he said it’s my fault because I don’t give him enough sex and she at least talks to him.

When did my like turn into this? I don’t need people to tell me what a piece of shit he is, because I know that, I just don’t understand it

Well done Bluntness this makes lots more sense!

OP I think you know that the majority here are going to tell you to get rid, you do not need this kind of drama in your life

I know it will be difficult in the short term after being together so long but this relationship isn’t working (for either of you by the sounds of it) and you will ultimately be much better off without him, I hope you know you are worth more than this

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