Hi All,
I’ve just signed up so I can post here as I genuinely have no one to talk to in the “real world” about this so I hope someone can offer me wisdom or advice 
I’ve been with my husband for 15 years and we are happily married with our dog! we’ve just moved back to my home village after 20 odd years of living everywhere but here.
Since I can ever remember I’ve never wanted children and we are child free by choice but since moving back to my village I’ve been looking back on my fabulous childhood and seeing our tiny village school and all the little kiddies playing together and I’m now 40 and something has changed in me and seems to have made me think about our life choices.
Now all my friends and family know we definitely don’t want kids and dead against them and they joke about me coming out in hives when children are near and when I met my hubby I had to warn him I would never be a mother and if he wants a family we shouldn’t be together but he was so happy about this that we got engaged after a month and fair to say we are still very happy and in love!
I broached the subject of kids to him recently and he laughed (he knows me very well and would assume rightly this is a joke) and I daren’t speak to friends or family about this as when they had kids I refused point blank to have anything to do with their kids when they were born (babies scare the crap out of me) now they are getting a little older we are the cool aunt and uncle but it’s only for a odd hour here and there we are not babysitters and after that hour we are glad to get away
So has anyone on here been totally against the idea of children with an equally dead against children long term partner but one day something just changed and did you go ahead with having them (assuming your on mumnet must mean your probably did 
) and how did you talk your partner round and what response did you get from friends and family or are you still happily child free and just ignored the feeling
I’m totally at a loss what to do, say or think so any advice would be great
Thanks for reading the ramblings of a crazy 40 year olds!!