heatbreak

[adooran]

hi just thought id post as i feel so alone my partner of 7 yrs walked out and i thought everything was fine... he kissed me goodbye said love you then within a few hours he sent me a mess saying he didnt love me no etc and am broken... i keep calling him begging him to come back saying i love u so much i feel like a twat ... i cant seem to pick myself up and when i ring he just says he dont care and he dont love me its awful i gave my all to him always tried to make sure he was happy i have really let myself go and now i just dont no what to do keep crying infront of my 3 children .... any advice or just a friendly mess would do .. x

I've just come here to post in the same vein. I'm a few weeks down the track but devastated.
I will say though, you will get so much by keeping things ok for the children. Take care of yourself as much as you can manage and draw every single iota of support you can.
I'm thinking of you, what a horrible shock.
Just get through tonight, don't think too far ahead.
You're in my thoughts.

That's so horrible OP, my heart goes out to you. He has been very deceptive in his behaviour- has he never discussed any concerns in the relationship before? If not, then it seems very unfair to just blindside you like this take care and take it day by day, it will get better very gradually.

You'll get through it, maybe not today or next week but you will and when you do you'll know he was just a coward who texted you that you were dumped, no balls to say it to your face. Change your number first thing in the morning , so you ain't looking at your phone waiting on him, you've done enough waiting. Get a huge pad of paper and everytime you feel like you want to text, write it down on the pad everything he's done and made you feel abd yes it's OK to cry. You'll fill the pad up but don't look at what you've written ever, just keep it until the day you throw it out when you feel like you. You'll go through the seven steps of grief, each step you overcome is one step closer to being you again. Proceed with caution it's easy to fall into a trap of self neglect, look after yourself your kids need you to be happy again.

Good luck and never mind the ball less coward the future is you and your kids

It's still very very raw give yourself real time to heal x

Thank you for your reply i have not texted him today i still feel upset and to make things worse mother nature turned up.. great its hard being in lockdown and not many friends to talk too if anyone would like to make a friendship thats fine by me but like i said its hard and i feel like am dieing inside

You can message me anytime,I'm going through the same x

Ty its awful isnt it :( like how do people do it everyone says i deserve better etc but i iust dont feel that way x

@adooran, how are you x

Hi yeah am doing ok well keeping busy and stuff ... how are u x

@adooran I was completely crushed when the children's father left me. I would of done anything for him. But it wasn't enough. Someone else had caught his eye. After 14 years and two kids. I cried for days and weeks after. But it eases in time. The process would of been quicker if I had been able to get a social life of my own. But I didn't have the spare funds as I was solely supporting the children and paying off debt. And never had much free time without the children.

Just go day by day. Look after yourself. Go as low contact as you can. Gather supportive people around you (virtually). Seek counselling and support from your GP if you feel you aren't coping. This will pass.

Just go day by day. Look after yourself. Go as low contact as you can. Gather supportive people around you (virtually). Seek counselling and support from your GP if you feel you aren't coping. This will pass.

Sorry you are going through this. Hugs

My heart goes out to you, my husband left 3 weeks ago. Very much at the raw grief stage and don't know what to do either.
I'm going more hour by hour at the minute than day by day. Try to write yourself a list of things that need to be sorted, phone calls, bills etc and even if you do one a day it's something.
Sending love