Living with the ex

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As the title says I'm currently having to live with the ex while we sell our home.
We have three children.
All childcare etc is being left to me unless he feels like taking an active role. He spends most of his days in his room, watching tv. I'm working full time (teacher) plus helping our eldest with his school work. Ex will do no school work with him or thinks he's the bees knees if he helps with one activity. Need some tips on coping with this all.
Also, what are the rules/laws around being filmed/recorded in your own home without consent and after being asked to stop. He's filming/recording me for evidence. Of what exactly I'm not sure. We're not in the UK but I would think laws where we are would be pretty similar.

Set up a nanny cam of your own. See what he is up to.
Remember your investment of love and time into your dc will reap it's own rewards.
Not your fault when ex has zero relationship with his own dc.

I lived with my ex through our divorce too. It was a horrid time and you have my sympathy. In UK it is illegal to film or record someone without their consent - and therefore inadmissible in court. That may or may not be the case where you are of course.
As for coping strategies. Make sure you have a separate space to retreat too - ideally a separate bedroom if you hove the space.
Try to gradually reduce the amount you do for your STBX. Stop doing his laundry - let him cook for himself just cook for yourself and the children.
If you haven't already start separating your finances. Use a joint account for mortgage/rent and household bills. Pay for everything else separately.

I wish you the best of luck - it was honestly the most terrible time of my life.

Thanks.
We're already in separate rooms (thank god!) Have a shared bill account but otherwise separate finances. Have already stopped cooking, cleaning up after him or doing his washing.
He will do the bare minimum for the children. Won't tidy up after them, put their clothes into wash etc won't drop the youngest two at day care or help get them ready in the morning unless he feels like it.
Is there anyway I can get him to agree to take on some child care? Any tips on how to approach that subject or should I just be realistic and face facts that it's all on me until we're living separately?