in my sleep

[focreb]

hi,

i accidentally pushed my boyfriend last night in my sleep and since i got up this morning he has been going on at me like i punched him, he is saying i smashed him in the face, i keep apologising but he isnt accepting my apology. what can i do i didnt mean to do it, should i report myself to the police for what i did? i feel terrible i didnt mean to push him away.

Of course, you don't report yourself to the police, that is a joke isn't it? He needs to grow up.

i have been apologising all morning, yet he is just sitting there not speaking, and when he does he says you smashed my face in i was only trying to give you a cuddle, i have said i was asleep but he isnt accepting it. i struggle with anxiety and depression anyway and this is a situation i dont know how to deal with, i feel terrible i did not do it on purpose.

He's being a dick because he knows it's affecting you negatively, he's enjoying your reaction and your groveling. Stop apologising, once is enough, tell him he either accepts that you're sorry or he doesn't.
Go do something else and let him sulk.

How sure are you that this actually happened?

Did you have any sort of argument last night? He wanted sex and you didn't, you told him you're going to see a friend, etc?

I push dh all the time for snoring I push him on his side. You wouldn't have pushed him in your sleep as your paralysed while sleeping youve prob just rolled over. He's being a drama queen and the police would laugh at this.

Do you remember any of this? Makes me wonder if he was trying for more than a cuddle...

Does he have any signs of physical injury?

What a twat,you have said sorry for something you had no idea you had done,if you did actually do it it was accidental,tell him to grow up x

Tell him to stop being a fucking mard arse. It was an accident. This would piss me right off

My bedsharing 4 year old kicked me in the face repeatedly last night....... she was having a dream, I hope! Obviously I was annoyed that she woke me up, but I'd never say anything the next day
You didn't do anything wrong, you were asleep!!!

There's nothing you can do. If you've told him you were asleep and he doesn't believe you, the problem isn't that you hit him, it's that he doesn't trust you. Have you approached it from that angle? The 'Why do you think I would be physically violent to you and then lie about it?' angle?

Does he usually respect what you say?

I get night terrors and jump around the bedroom and lash out in my sleep. Ive properly struck DH on a few occasions. He never asks for an apology because he knows I have no control over my actions. Your DP is an arsehole. Stop apologising !!

He sounds like he could turn abusive. How do you know what he’s saying is even true?

If you did ACCIDENTALLY hurt him in your sleep and he won’t accept an apology, tell him he can sleep downstairs. May I ask how old you are? Saying you’re going to report yourself to the police is very dramatic and I think being with someone that makes you think so irrationally is very worrying.

Agree with pp that he sounds like he could turn abusive.

It's not normal to hold something like that against someone. Let alone throw huffs.

Jas he form for controlling or manipulative behaviour? Selfishness? Insensitivity? Shit stirring? Looking like he is enjoying your steess/hurt?

*has he form
*stress/hurt

Is this gaslighting and paving the way for you to accept unwanted sex as resisting it would be assault on your part?

I think you may have a lot to unpick here and it won’t be you who is at fault.