My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years and have a 3 month old son, ever since he was born I have do everything. I ebf so he can't help there but he doesn't bother doing anything else either! He's only changed a handful of nappies and given him a bath a couple of times (when I've asked him to) and he seems fed up when i ask him to look after our son for a bit while I go to the toilet or for a shower. He also spends every evening sat in the kitchen either alone or with his friend smoking while I sit alone in the living room looking after our boy. I've tried talking to him about it so many times, but he either goes quite or goes on the defensive pointing out that he does the shopping and cooking and doesn't even understand when I point out that I could do those things if he helped more! I left him to go to my mums for a week when I was pregnant to try and get through to him and make him realise what he'd lose but its clearly made no impact. I really don't want to leave as we have our son and house together but I don't no what to do to get through to him without him complaining to his friends that I'm a nag!