A year and I'm still not over him,is this normal ?

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We broke up last January.
I still think about him every day.
We still spoke daily and had phone calls up until 6 weeks ago but I couldn't do it anymore.
We argued and have not spoken since.
Why aren't I over him after 1 year?
Is something wrong with me ?
1 year since I've seen him and still feel stuck

You've answered your own question there. You were talking daily until 6 weeks ago. You've not let yourself move on from him. Keep with the no contact and focus on yourself and after time you will move on.

Because you still kept in contact.

Thats not a clean break. That's a way to hold on to the possibility that you might get back together.

You haven't properly broken up until you actually stop seeing and speaking to the person.

It is a bit odd to still be stuck on an ex after 1 year especially in this day and age where you can online date but maybe because you've stayed in contact? Once you stop speaking and focus on yourself and new love, you might start to get over him

Unfortunately there are no rules when it comes to love & loss. There's no standard blueprint that says you'll be over someone by such and such a date it just doesn't work like that. Those that say so are not you and we all experience break ups differently.
After my long loveless marriage broke up I fell head over heels in love with the first women that paid attention to me. That broke up after a few months and it seriously took me the best part of 5 years to get over her. Did dating and had a relationship but she was still there. At least having no contact you'll have a chance to heal however long that takes.
Wish you well

It is normal for me. It takes me a very long time to move on.

I'm not sure I'll ever be over one ex. For a few reasons. The main 2 reasons being (a) I can't actually avoid him completely without giving up things that are good for my mental health and (b) the way he changed his treatment of me from the start to later on - it makes me really unsettled when dating as I'm almost waiting/watching for it happening again. Honestly, I'd rather have been cheated on because what he did has affected me far more.

It’s because you stayed in touch. No contact is honestly the way forward. I split up with my ex in October, and honestly didn’t think I’d ever get over him. No contact worked bloody wonders. I still think of him, but there’s no residual feelings or want anymore.

Give yourself some time, and don’t get in touch with him. Time to heal now.

I had one that took this long, again because we were in contact. I eventually cut him off completely and threw myself into dating. I probably stopped thinking about him may be 3 months later? I now look back on him and wonder what I saw in him. Try also on focus on all the negative aspects of him. For example he is clearly cruel as he had maintained contact with you knowing it is probably causing you pain. Focus on that.

A bit random I know, but have u read Matt Haig's Midlight Library? A big theme is how we reflect back on former relationships and how that can stop us moving on. Great book - might help u get a bit unstuck x

You spoke every day. You picked the scab and kept it from healing over. That’s why he’s still on your mind. Delete his number, block him, keep busy. Move on.

@PrawnCorset

You spoke every day. You picked the scab and kept it from healing over. That’s why he’s still on your mind. Delete his number, block him, keep busy. Move on.

This. You were boosting this guy’s ego and he was leading you on for nearly a year by speaking to each other every day after you split up. Block and move on.

What age are you op? When I used to break up from relationships early in my 20's I felt vulnerable and wasnt't happy single. I used to keep contact with d*ck exes to keep that side of my life alive. i
It's hard to be independent happy single all the time.