I talk to my ex every single day

[Emel1800]

I have known a man for six years and he is the person I am closest to. I live with my mother which, since the pandemic has felt increasingly isolating. My ex and I broke up 18 months ago - and he totally blindsided me with it. We had 3 years of friendship behind us, the sex was good and I thought we were getting on well. However my mothrt had been ill and this was stressing me; and he’d met up with another ex a few weeks prior. Two months later - probably less- there were back together. He’d go and stay with her every weekend. It killed me but a I tried to get on with life.

During the pandemic he didnt go to stay with her and spend lockdown with her. He and I talked every day. We still do. I want to stop but I am so, so lonely and have no-one else.

Please help/advise.

@5128gap it totally increased because of the pandemic, I think as a minimum I can move it down to every other day, then twice a week, etc.

I’d stop. You’ve made it very friendly and when he inevitably does get into a new relationship etc, he’ll tell you first! Can you handle that? By your posts I’d say no.

Do you have any other friends? Could you agree with a few to call them instead of him? Many friend used to do this when she wanted to text her ex, it helped her reduce it and then stop.

He’s already in a new relationship. And @SleepingStandingUp yes I do

You deserve better and so does she! He's keeping you on the back burner and she is probably totally unaware that you exist. You need to cut him off for your own well being. It's hard but cold turkey and no contact gets easier as time goes by.

I think you’re prolonging the agony.

Also, I wonder whether he’d ever stopped talking to her if she was his ex before he met you?

@Sn0tnose you’re probably right. Certainly he was talking to her before we split. Have you seen “the Holiday”?