I could be wrong

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At the risk of outing myself..... my (D)H got personal tonight. I was saying that I want any child of ours to be close, unlike his DBs and it escalated.
Background: his (D)Bs and him don't communicate directly at all ever (49-55); we as a couple together over 10 years have never been invited for dinner at his DB1 house; DB2 lives in the US so different story (been invited haven't been yet).
He took offence saying how dare I comment on their relationship when I am not in touch with my half sister (for reference I met her 7 years ago for the first time and she disappeared as quickly as she came in my life). It didn't seem like a fair comparison.
Aside from this he is a great dad to DS1. He works a lot. About half of what I work for half the pay but thats covid for you. He is pro vaccine, I am against; he is pro eu I initially voted brexit but if I had to vote again that would change; we have nothing in common. He has no friends or interest in people. I love people of any culture and love exploring and travelling
Are we doomed? I haven't laughed for years. I am 34 for reference. My 'joy' is my child and my work success.

You lost me at pro Brexit and anti Vax.. Personally I couldn't contemplate a relationship with you and I'm surprised you have lasted so long. Sorry but these are not really superficial differences, how did you ever get together?

Yes you are doomed. Call it day.

Are we doomed? I haven't laughed for years.

Bloody hell. Yes, doomed. That's so sad and it's worrying you are even questioning whether it's doomed or not. You sound totally incompatible and it sounds like if you separate and focus on coparenting rather than being a couple then you will both be much happier.

@pog100

You lost me at pro Brexit and anti Vax.. Personally I couldn't contemplate a relationship with you and I'm surprised you have lasted so long. Sorry but these are not really superficial differences, how did you ever get together?

As above

Totally doomed.
Move on for both of your sakes.

Perhaps you shouldn’t have used his family as an example of what you don’t want. Blood is always thicker than water and most of us are conditioned to defend families we come from. That’s just human nature.
That aside, what do you have in common? Things you differ in can be deal breakers so what is the glue that holds you together? Is it stronger than your differences?

Sorry, but I'm with your DH on this one. Not really your place to comment on his relationship with his siblings.
But yes, it sounds like you're uncompatible.

Leave your poor husband and keep you antivax probrexit views to yourself so you can do less damage. I certainly hope you don't block your child from vaccines?

Jesus Christ this is a made up post, right???

Your marriage was doomed before the "I do's."

He got personal? Sounds like you got personal first.

Ppl instantly assume you are against all vaccinations. From your post i only read you are against covid one which is reasonable. It’s been developed in the shortest time ever and is using techniques never used before. I’m cautious too, i prefer to see side and long term effects before jumping onto it.

This does sound like a joke post ready to rile people. If its a real post then you are doomed sadly. Nothing about your relationship deems you to be compatible. Move on. I have my vaccine booked for Wednesday, I work in a care setting so getting it early.

To clarify - @@BaskingMad is spot on. with anti vaccination I purely mean I don't want to get vaccinated. Have nothing against everyone else doing it. It's been developed quickly and we don't know the long term effects. It's in reference to me only, not everyone else.

Re Brexit - I was pro due to the 'the money will go back to the NHS' which eventually turned out not to be true.

We were very compatible back in the day but as we got older our views on things and lifestyles differ.

Thank you for your time to reply. Whoever posted above that I used the wrong example in the discussion, in hindsight agree. I will leave this thread now.

Re Brexit - I was pro due to the 'the money will go back to the NHS' which eventually turned out not to be true.
You really believed that shite at the time? ‘Turned out not to be true’..... it was bollocks from the start, it’s just a shame too many people fell for it.
Just like the xenophobic bullshit about hundreds of thousands of Turkish people joining the EU and entering the UK. Did you believe that too?
I’m starting to feel very sorry for your DH.

When you said you wanted your child to be "close ", what did you mean? Close to you, or close to siblings or cousins?

I think the problem in your marriage is not people getting personal with each other (whatever that means), but that you and your DH are fundamentally incompatible.