I was with an ex boyfriend a few years ago who was just awful. He started out as the perfect man but very quickly things changed. He was emotionally abusive in the worst ways and used the darkest day in my life to manipulate me. Needless to say I was traumatised by it, in 2019 I had emdr therapy to stop panic attacks associated with what he did to me and was diagnosed with ptsd. I am now awaiting further therapy. Keeping a relationship going has been difficult for me and I have had so many struggles but I now have a beautiful five month old girl who is my world.
My reason for this post I suppose is this, a few months after we broke up I blocked him on everything to stop him contacting me. I even blocked his friends too so he couldn’t get information from them. But I recently found out he has a girlfriend, they have been together for a while now and it’s left me feeling angry all over again. I’m angry that he was so cruel and vile to me, but can be so lovely to someone else. It’s left me with so many emotions. In no way do I ever ever want him back, but I’m sad he chose to treat me so horribly.
Was it just me? Was I an easy target? Or is there more to people who are abusive?