Why would anyone want me when I have hsv1?

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I'm getting over a bad relationship it isn't easy as I do still love him. He's done a lot to me and worst of all was the hsv1 genital diagnosis. I'm not even a catch by any means and have children. Why would anyone want to be with me again? I just feel like I will spend the rest of my life alone as who is going to want to be with me? I feel so low.

I think you need therapy first to learn to love yourself first and foremost.

There is nothing wrong with being single truly there isn’t.

Be kind to yourself and take your time

Dullard is right - having a relationship isn’t a requirement, being single doesn’t mean you’re defective and life can be happy and fulfilling without a partner. It doesn’t matter if you don’t find another one, really.

As for hsv1 - it’s so common! Think how many people get cold sores. It’s really not a big deal. I have had cold sores and they’ve never put anyone off - my last date kissed me even with an active sore (which I did tell him not to) but he said he wasn’t bothered so guess he’s gone away with a dose of herpes himself ¯\(ツ)/¯

I have hsv1. You make it sounds as if it's leprosy

My best friend has hsv1. She's had a number of partners since then and every man she has told has had no problem with it at all.

Though previous posters are right - maybe best not to focus on relationships right now and learn to love yourself first.

Isn’t it just cold sores?

OP, did you not start this exact same thread, slightly differently worded, a week or two ago? You said you were still heartbroken over your breakup.

The advice there was to take some time out of dating and concentrate on your family and your own life. Not because of any medical diagnosis but because you didn't seem in a good place to begin a new relationship. I'm sorry if you found those responses unsatisfactory.

I think there are dating sites exclusively for people with HSV1 if that could be an option for you.

Otherwise I think all you can do is be honest with partners before you get to that stage and like other posters have said, some will be fine with it. It makes dating a bit more complicated but that can be true for many people with many different problems or situations.

I understand , but try not to let it get you down. Take time out for yourself and try to keep your mental health in check for the sake of you and your family.

All anyone can ever give is themselves, their ear to listen, their sense of fun or comedy, their opinions, their love, their smile, their positivity. And you have kids which is lovely and fantastic. Op I'm sorry this guy did a number on you. Everyone is worthy and capable of love, but try and get your self worth back. Do some little things you enjoy, some pampery things, including your favourite books and tv shows, beauty routines. Play with your kids, if they're older, board games. Watch some comedy, listen to your favourite music, go for a walk, or do some exercise if you can. Take care, the world is wide open for you still ( sorry if this sounds sappy but I believe it all)

A huge amount of people have it. It’s really irrelevant
Jesus even if you had HIV it wouldn’t be a death sentence and you can still have sex!
I mean where are you getting this shit from

@Marinaloves Thank you for posting that. I'm still I have oral hsv and am aware this can be transmitted to the genitals through oral sex. Does this mean I should never seek a partner again? No one will want me? I think you should stay single for the forseeable and work on your self-esteem.

It's so so common.

My DBro has it, (he phoned me in a panic when he found out, which is how I know)

I have HPV.

Both in happy long term relationships. It's not spoken about a lot but I think you'd be surprised at how common it actually is.

About 70% of the world population has HSV1. If you find someone that is put off by this, they are just ignorant and judgemental so it's better to avoid them anyway.

Approximately 67% of people 49 and under have HSV1! If any man is bothered by that then they'll have to look for the other 33% 😉.

Hsv1 is just cold sores isn’t it? They are very common.

It’s hsv2 that’s genital herpes I think

Are you saying no one will want you because you get cold sores? 😕

My dp told me he has it on our first date, its not been an issue we just dont do anything when he had a flare up

Op have you typed the wrong thing. You wrote hsv1 genital diagnoses.

Hsv2 is genital, so herpes. Hsv1 is cold sores. You know on your mouth

Which do you mean?

@Bluntness100 you can have hsv1 genitally or hsv2 orally. It's less frequent but it happens

@Bluntness100
You can have both strains genitally
Hsv1 is actually not as bad
But neither are that bad

Hsv1 now causes around 70% of all new genital herpes infections (NHS clinic data). 6 in 10 people in the UK have hsv1 (oral & genital) combined. Chances are, someone you want to date has it too.

Hsv1 doesn't like the genitals and outbreaks are infrequent usually. Asymptomatic shedding rates are low. This means you are unlikely to infect someone who doesn't already have it.

You feel bad about having hsv1 because of it's location. But you are less likely to infect someone than the person with oral hsv1 who originally infected you and who doesn't face the stigma.

Genital hsv1 doesn't diminish your worth.

Speak to the herpes viruses association for information and advice.

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Ah ok thanks I wasn’t aware of that.