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feeling jealous of MIL - Why??

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emz31 · 27/10/2004 13:48

MIL lives miles away and is on her own since FIL died. we see her about twice a month, but because she is so lonely she is very possessive of DS almost to the point of obsession. i barely see DS for the whole time we are with her and if not for breastfeeding him she makes me feel totally redundant. she's even pushing for us to go away on holiday and leave DS with her - he's only 4months old! i'm now at the point wher i really resent seeing her and have become snappy and possessive over DS. I know she'd be so upset if she knew i felt like this, but why do i feel so jealous - especially as i'd gladly leave DS with my mum for days on end?!

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woodpops · 27/10/2004 14:11

Is he the 1st grandchild as well??

I wouldn't feel jelous at the end of the day she's lost her dh. Perhaps her way of coping is by throwing herself into the family she's got left.

emz31 · 27/10/2004 14:15

yes - my DH is her only child too. i know i should just chill out, as she really is a lovely woman and i know deep down it's her only way of coping. at the end of the day i'll probably be glad to pawn off DS to anyone when he's going through his terrible 2's and i'm tearing my hair out!

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woodpops · 27/10/2004 15:19

THey always say boys are much closer to their mothers. I'd just go with he flow. I'm sure the feeling of jealousy will soon pass. She's probably jealous of you cause you've got a dh, a new ds and are just starting out on a new phase of your life.

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