Ended relationship

[honeyandbee12]

Just want to know what people think. I've just ended a relationship after 12 months. It never felt right but I'm now questioning myself if it was just me being overly anxious and looking too much into things. Felt I could never relax in the relationship, like there was always something to worry about. Doesn't help with covid and not seeing each other. I'm doubting myself nowJust really down and and doubting myself. Surely if your gut is telling you it isn't right then it isn't.

Put it this way op, if you hadn't ended it then you would still be sat about wondering if you should.

You had to make a choice one way or another and if you hadn't chosen this way then the entirety of the relationship moving forwards, you wouldn't be able to relax. Which means you could never fully trust or give your hear to this person. And that would gave been a waste of time for you both.

Good on you for taking action.

I dont know what your gut was telling you but if it was along the lines of general uneasiness then chances are more likely than not, you've made a very wise decision in walking away. You've grown as a person by choosing to trust your gut and act on it and should be proud of yourself.

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Always, always trust your instincts. If it didn't feel right and you weren't able to relax, then you were right to end it.

Well done for making the break.

Thank you, its very difficult moving on. I'm upset and I'm now sure that doubting myself is a part of the roller-coaster of emotions until I can feel better.

I wish I had listened to my gu0t when I was in a similar situation. Instead, I stuck it out and it made it all the more painful when the relationship did end. Well done for being so brave/

You probably have too much time to think at the moment but after lockdown you can start your life back up. You wouldn’t end it without a good reason so trust your instincts x

Can you list the things that didn’t feel right for you, and caused you anxiety?

Not necessarily here, but for yourself?

Hey.

I've just ended a relationship from around the same sort of time (although I was with him twice). I've been like this on and off. I have been missing him and sometimes I go weak and start questioning whether I've done the right or not. But I absolutely have! I've always known that deep down! He was mentally and emotionally abusive in different ways, and he start getting angry and agressive and throwing things around me and my child towards the end! I ended it in the end by taking everything into consideration (especially the agression) and I also had a gut instinct that I didn't think it would be right to continue to relationship, so I ended it.

I don't know what reasons made you end it with him, but you also had a gut instinct that something didn't feel right and you ended it too! It is never wrong or a bad thing to do that! You have to think of yourself. If you didn't feel right then it's best for you to end it. I ended it thinking of my child, but also myself. That's never a bad thing.

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Thank you everyone for your support. I think some of it was my fault for not trusting and looking too much into things but I felt I couldn't talk to him about things that bothered me. He scared me in the tone of his voice sometimes and he would get really annoyed by other people and the way he acted always seemed a over reaction. Mummyy2020, Well done you for having the courage leave him.