I met a guy five years ago when my son was very young. We moved in together quickly and during three years he changed his mind about wanting marriage and kids, he ended up resenting my son, was trying it on with my sister and my friends behind my back, lots of other stuff. (I didn’t know he was doing this until we split Altho I had had suspicions!)
I put a post on a group similar to this asking for advice because he just couldn’t get along with my son. Someone from the group screenshotted it and sent it to my ex, who was so angry that he asked me to pack me and my sons things and get out of his house.
I was so shocked and heartbroken I did as he said and left. My sons life was turned upside down.
I moved away and got my life together again.
I’ve had two years of therapy to get over the pain of this. My relationship just prior to this was really abusive in every way.
At the time I left I never told my ex how angry I was or that I knew about him and my sister I just kept everything bottled up and was civil when I saw him.
After two years of being split, I deleted his number from my phone last week. And he’s messaged me today! Asking how me and my son are and how are we doing, do I need the spare car keys that he still has at his house etc.
This has knocked me for six. I can’t stop shaking. I’m not sure whether to block him, be civil or give him a piece of my mind. I’ve always felt like I should’ve been honest with him about how much he hurt me and how much I know about what he did behind my back just so he knows that I know he isn’t this ‘good guy’ he pretends to be. When we split I was too scared to do that but now I’m conflicted about whether to let rip at him or not.