Is This a Dealbreaker?

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Been dating someone for 6 weeks (both single households, no other contact outside home). We were discussing CoVid & he said that if he had CoVid symptoms he wouldn’t get a test because “he doesn’t trust them” because they could “pick up some other virus and then it comes up as CoVid positive and you have to isolate”. He was clear that if he did have symptoms he would isolate, but not have a test. I asked why he didn’t trust them and tried to explain how false positives are very rare. He said it’s because the government made a mess of managing things from the start and he just doesn’t trust the government or anything they ask him to do. He believes the government are “feeding us the science they want us to believe”
I work in Healthcare and feel very strongly about this. Am very p**d off now.
Is this a dealbreaker or is everyone entitled to their opinions?

Only you can decide what is a deal breaker for you OP. It could simply be you dont want to be with him that's the deal breaker in itself. The 'reason' doesn't always have to be glaringly obvious.

I'd say if he has annoyed you this much over his attitude, you're probably not compatible and that could play out into other areas should the relationship progress.

Entirely up to you, if you don't like his views, dump him already. What's the point of wasting time with someone you're going to fight with or feel frustrated by? Especially this early on.

'Feeding us the science they want us to believe' makes him sound paranoid/like a conspiracy theorist. It'd be a no from me.

If his argument is that he thinks he’ll get a false positive and have to isolate as a result, why does he care when he claims he would isolate if he had symptoms anyway? This would be a dealbreaker for me.

Well yes it would be for me....

If he's an idiot, that should be a deal breaker. As it turns out, he's an idiot.

It would be for me

I don’t think that would be a deal breaker; if he denied covid was an issue then yes a deal breaker but a bit of sceptiscism about the government and how they’re handling this is healthy I’d say; they are telling us what they want us to believe ie. it’s safe to go back to the office when blatantly it wasn’t a good idea

Mmm.... I'd wonder what other conspiracy theories he was going to come out with.

I'd tell him to go on his way.

Are you sure he is being as safe as he could /should be with the rules? Could he have put you at risk?

All I can say it is a good thing that you've only been seeing him for six weeks; six months and you could be really involved.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. You dont have to listen to it. Deal breaker for me

I couldn’t put up with that.
Next.

I'm a healthcare worker and think he's talking irritating nonsense. But at the same time, I have sympathy with the feeling of being lied to, and how this makes you doubt everything you are being told. Honestly, the way this government has dabbled in double speak, smoke and mirrors, lies and u-turns, never mind the Dominic Cummings debacle , has created a ripe breeding ground for conspiracy theorists and vaccine deniers. And by attacking them, fighting among ourselves, rather than the government that created this climate...well, it's just the kind of distraction that dysfunctional governments rely on.

It'd be a healthy debate in my house, not a deal breaker.

Thank you for you responses. Should have phrased the w as "would you consider this a dealbreaker?" I understand about distrust of the government, but the not being tested because he doesn't trust the result was just a bit weird and sort of pointed towards ignorance.

It sounds like my ex... he believes its all a conspiracy, made worse by a random test at work that came back positive. He was asymptomatic and everyone he’d been in contact with isolated without symptoms so that proved it was made up and was mind control...
Personally I’d run a mile

OP,
Yes.
Stupidity is a deal breaker.

Yes. Couldn’t stick him.