Does anyone know about twin flames?

[Poppyseeds123]

It’s something I started looking at but is it real? I though I had that kind of connection, that intense energy that can read my partners energy and feelings without him here or telling me. To be honest it was weird (I’m in my 40’s and had quite a few relationships over the years) Or was that just the beginning honeymoon infatuation stage, albeit different to all the other (including my exh)?
Anyway we’ve been together 3 years and it’s still great and I really couldn’t ask for anything else off him. Just the electric energy has disappeared at the moment, I’m not sure why. I know I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him but I can’t seem to get the same energy back.

I’m probably a bit depressed, finding lockdown, homeschooling and wfh really tough so that maybe it.

Any ideas?

It's called "limerence", but some people in the New Age have re-labelled it to avoid dealing with the reality of living with someone long-term.

You’ve moved from romantic infatuation (limerence) to love. The thing is, love is warts and all, it’s reality and it’s not as unicorns and fantasy as limerence. But it’s real and grown up, and frankly better.
Enjoy the new energy, it doesn’t have to be depressing. No one can live with a partner long term and be in a permanent state of limerence.

@WhatMattersMost so we were just in the infatuation stage? And that energy won’t come back? We still have a great connection, just isn’t the same. But then I guess every relationship has a different honeymoon period and I guess that was my recent one.
I’m not sure it is limerence though as that’s generally an unhealthy obsession, I’m not sure it was that

[quote Poppyseeds123]@WhatMattersMost so we were just in the infatuation stage? And that energy won’t come back? We still have a great connection, just isn’t the same. But then I guess every relationship has a different honeymoon period and I guess that was my recent one.
I’m not sure it is limerence though as that’s generally an unhealthy obsession, I’m not sure it was that[/quote]
Yes, you were in the infatuation stage, and that rarely, if ever, lasts. This is the thing with the whole "Twin Flame" phenomenon: it is an attempt to avoid dealing with the other, warts and all. It doesn't mean that you lose that connection entirely - some people just fit together well. But along with that, you'll also discover your differences, and what pisses you off about them. And you'll discover boredom at times, and you'll wonder where that magic has gone. If so, welcome to the fully lived life! You now no longer need 'romance' to be the be all and end all.

It comes to us all, it's long term love. I'm in the same position 18 months in (thanks to lockdown we've spent pretty much 10 months in each company 24/7 so fast tracked!) The crucial thing is that you see yourselves together getting old - true love my mum told me is bickering in the garden centre over which tree to plant that will last a lifetime, because you know you will be together to see it grow!

Yes, absolutely normal, next stop, the seven year itch and the midlife crisis.

Enjoy!

That “electricity”, limerance, etc is actually caused by hormones with a limited shelf life. From an evolutionary standpoint it lasts long enough to encourage us to produce offspring before the more deep-seated “comfy” hormones take over.