So complicated please help.

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God don’t even know where to start! So I have 3 children. One of my children is terminally ill and without going in to too much detail will not live for longer than 3 years. Obviously this is a heart breaking situation for us! My AF is 5 days late and am really am concerned that I may be pregnant. The difficult situation is the condition which my son has that has made him terminally ill is genetic. The consultant discussed with us that if we wanted any more children they can test baby when 7 weeks pregnant to check for the condition. Having a discussion about it with my husband and he says he doesn’t want another child (anytime soon) as I understand because our child’s health needs are complex and having another two older children we have a lot going on. He just can’t see my point that if this has happened I would feel uncomfortable to take the tablet to take baby away as there is a chance I could have a healthy baby. I do see his point that if it wasn’t a healthy baby we would need to terminate at 7 weeks but because I know I am going to lose one of my children the thought of having a healthy child I dont feel I could throw away. My partner is in an awful mood as am saying if I was pregnant I would want to continue he doesn’t. I did tell him if he really didn’t want another child then he shouldn’t be having unprotected sex with me. Please someone give me any sort of advice

Take a pregnancy test. This may be a n argument you don't need to have. If you are pregnant, take it from there

I have some have had a faint line and others haven’t so am really not sure. I have a clear blue digital which I will take in the morning.

Taking a test sounds a good idea. You're absolutely right though that if you don't both want another child you shouldn't be having unprotected sex. Both of you should stop that until you've found out whether you are pregnant and had the conversation you badly need to have any whether you want another child. Sounds a really tough situation though with your terminally ill child.

I think you shouldn't have any more children if there's a chance they could end up in the same situation as your terminally ill child.

Best of luck op.

Obviously see what your test says in morning. This could be moot. My advice - try and tune into yourself right now and what you want. You've got so much going on. So, you don't need your dh's mood on top.
Your body. What do you want?

Oh goodness, what a hard situation.

As others have said, be sure first. Then have a discussion.

Good luck.

Neither of you should be having unprotected sex. You are both equally responsible.

I have some understanding of how you are feeling I have a genetic condition that runs in my family and I knew there would be a 50% of my child having the condition I had to have a test at 8w to determine if my child would have the condition I know how awful and stressful it is it’s not like a usual pregnancy you can’t get excited or plan things (I was planning on terminating the pregnancy if it was bad news as there is no cure and child would die from the illness) that was tough enough I can’t begin to imagine how it must for you and your family right now this will just be extra stress but only you can decide what’s best for you and your family you would be put in contact with a genetic consultant who who will help you more and with both of my pregnancies they were brilliant and you will get priority because of the situation luckily my pregnancy is in the clear so I can go ahead. I think you will just need to have a little bit of time to think and someone professional to talk to to point you on the right direction. Really hope this helps a little