Has Anyone Come Back From A Seriously Rough Patch?

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I have messaged before about how DH & I have bounced back from a few really tough years in our marriage. When I look back, I put up with his behaviour way too long & should have insisted that we got help ( I wanted us to go to Relate or similar but he refused as it was expensive & money troubles were a major factor for us). Anyway, I am so glad that we didn’t split up & now our relationship is a lot stronger.

Interested to hear from others. Me and my partner are going through a rough patch at the minute and I'm not sure what the outcome will be but all I do know is this bloody covid is not helping matters

Yep. A truly awful patch with terrible behaviour on both our parts. We have an incredibly strong relationship now, a true partnership. It takes a lot of work, and some people will never believe you managed to "bounce back" and so will always view your relationship with a negative slant. Always remember you never know what goes on behind closed doors.

it depends on what caused the rough patch i suppose

Yes, we are currently getting over some awful stuff. Partners drug addiction really tore us apart, it was only my inability to throw him out for good that meant we stayed together initially.
However, he is now a year clean and taking his recovery very seriously. Our relationship is getting better week by week... I think the key is to take things very slowly - rebuilding a life together, especially if there has been any sort of betrayal, is not something that can be rushed.

Yes. I had solicitor meeting lined up and plans to move out (20 years together, 2 kids).
He started to have counselling (still does) and I had already been going for some time. We don’t do it together.
Over a year now since then and our relationship is the best it’s ever been.