Want to move on but its so hard

[Lovemakesworldgoround]

Hey all , how do u move on from lies ? Its been few years now but I still can't accept it won't happen again . Its so frustrating I love them but if anything its getting worse and I feel like they up to something 😕
Never felt like this in a relationship before yet I've been lied to in past by exs but this feels so different like I really trusted them 100% and its gone .

If the trust is over the relationship is over. Do you mean move in the relationship and forgive the lies that killed your trust? If so then I’d stop bothering to try and move on from the relationship. Why stay with someone who has hurt you and lied to you? Being in a healthy happy relationship with a good person makes life better. This one sounds like it’s making your life harder, which is the opposite of what you need.

What do you mean, “they” ?.

@AnneLovesGilbert

If the trust is over the relationship is over. Do you mean move in the relationship and forgive the lies that killed your trust? If so then I’d stop bothering to try and move on from the relationship. Why stay with someone who has hurt you and lied to you? Being in a healthy happy relationship with a good person makes life better. This one sounds like it’s making your life harder, which is the opposite of what you need.

Yes try forgive but I'm finding it so hard . He promises he won't do it again but im constantly feeling like thats another lie .

Sorry op but I've been where you are. The fact that your partner can lie so convincingly means that you can never take them at their word and that's a death knell to a relationship m. I tried for 28 months to 'move on' from my ex's lies and deceit and it ate away at me. Personally, I'd end it sooner rather than later and save yourself a whole lot of pain and anguish.

Thanks for reply. I say its been years but its been lies over the last few years all built up. I honestly could cry how I feel it ranges from anger to sadness. Little white lies have made me feel like a paranoid wreck . And the worst is he don't get why I can't just forget it.

I honestly feel like I'm losing the plot 😕

It's no way to live op.

I do love him though

As I say, I've been there. If the trust is gone it's gone.

I've just ended my 12 year relationship because of lies and deceit,it was messing with my head and I was constantly paranoid,it's no way to live I wish now I had ended it years ago x