Period Sex

[Munskin]

Hi all
I’ve been with my partner for 6 months - we are both adults with previous long term relationships. I was never a fan of period sex as mine were pretty rough but as I’ve gotten older I find I’m so horny during this time.
So last night we were getting all steamy and I said I wanted to have sex (I’m on my P) I was v horny & I won’t get to see him for at least 2 weeks. His reaction was weird - clearly he not a fan & he appeared grossed out .🤦‍♀️

I felt like crap & for a while bad that I got abit upset by his reaction & I felt I should have let it go . He said he felt like a dick but made no attempt to say anything more . He is away back to work today and we never mentioned it this morning but I’m feeling embarrassed, a little sad & can't stop thinking about it. Our sex life is amazing / I cant complain but this has got me.

Any advice ?

I really think you should forget about this. Your partner has every right to not want sex during your period. Its smelly, messy, sticky and I can 100% agree why he wouldnt want to. He said he feel like a dick (probably feels bad incase you feel embarrassed) but I wouldnt expect an apology. He has every right the feel the way that he feels. I dont think he is grossed about because its a period, I think he is grossed out by the thought of putting his penis somewhere where he knows it's going to get covered in blood.

Dont feel embarrassed, you suggested somthing and he declined. Atleast you know now and you could always use this time do things to yourself to satisfy your needs.

Didn't mean that to come across as nasty because it's not and I understand how you feel.

Oh for christ's sake, all he had to say was that's not for me.
Jesus. Penis and blood? No one made him.

This is all very high school.

In my experience it’s 50/50 whether men will or they won’t, and for the ones who will that can range from being willing to do oral, to only wanting to do it when the flow is lightish.....

The problem here I think is not so much his refusal, but the fact he made you feel it was disgusting. Periods are not disgusting!

In my experience some guys don't have an issue with it and some do.

But the ones I've had sex with on my period have been ones I've been in longer term relationships so longer than six months and we saw each other a lot. So we were used to these kind of things due to spending lots of time together etc. I'm only mentioning that as you said he's away and you won't see him for two weeks now.

I don't think I've had period sex with anyone that I wasn't in a longer relationship with as I would have felt embarrassed. But that's me and periods are nothing to be embarrassed about at all but it feels more intimate if you get what I mean so that's why I would have felt that way. I completely get why you felt the way you do as it is a natural reaction to feel that way especially as it was left like that type thing.

I know that lots don't like the idea due to it being blood and also some claim they can "smell it more" etc but as long as it isn't heavy flow then I don't see an issue with it as long as you're both comfortable with it. And orgasms are actually meant to help with cramps plenty of women feel like having sex on their period and as long as both are happy then nothing wrong with it in my opinion.

Nobody should ever make you feel that way and leave you feeling that way but I do understand that in earlyish stages these types of things can be more difficult to communicate and each other sometimes aren't sure the best way to let the other know how they're feeling and the way to respond to that.

Hope you're okay!

Also another one here saying don't satisfy him in any way if he's not willing to do the same for you! As that can quickly become a recurring theme for other times as well and not a pleasant road to go down at all!

My ex would never have sex when I was on my period, It was an absolute no from him

I'm not sure about refusing to do anything sexually for a partner if he doesn't want period sex. Almost like punishing him?

I will sometimes relieve my partner just because I want to do something nice for him and don't always expect the favour returned! Not always, and not out of obligation though.

Sometimes ill even make him a cup of tea when I don't fancy one

I don't have a set rule of Well if you won't have period sex then you can go whistle mate.