Tell me your love stories..

[Littlesparrow0]

Without going into much im not in a fantastic relationship. Ive been with my partner from 17 until now 35. We've too small children together. Im incredibly unhappy with him, I really don't have a life outside my home. My days are made up of just looking after him & the kids. Ive no friends anymore & he prefers it that way!

I know things in my relationship aren't right but its all ive known as we got together so young.

I'm just looking to read everybody's positive relationships/love stories. Why do you love your partner, what do they do to show you they love you on a daily basis or whatever? It will honestly just help me compare what the "love" is i deal with on a daily basis and help me understand if this is actually a relationship worth holding on to as I feel like I cant cope anymore and I want my children to see a positive relationship

And a happy mum who actually feels loved

I met exh young, married and kid by mid 20's but things were not brilliant. We managed though but by the time the kids were mid teens it was just a case of going through the motions, he talked about leaving and did when the youngest reached 18. Fast forward and I met an amazing man with a similar relationship experience and we just clicked, thanks to lockdown I've spent nearly every day with him for nearly a year and we have such a different and respectful relationship compared to exh. I'm still good friends with exh, dp is with his ex - everyone is happy basically. I can now see growing old with dp whereas I couldn't with exh

Aw, this sounds miserable OP. I would suggest kindly that you don't need to hear other people's stories to know that it's ok to call it a day. You describe your life as looking after him as well as the kids. That's not right for a start.
At 35 you probably don't feel that young, but trust me you are!

I'm nearly 37, 2 DC (9 and 5) and 18 months ago I discovered my husband of 10 years (together since I was 19) had had another affair (number 3 that I know of). He moved out a year ago and I can honestly say I didn't think I could do it.. Little did I know I would also have to cope with a pandemic, homeschooling and zero family around to get me through. Yet here I am 18 months later standing strong and happy, and my kids are happy.
In the summer I started spending time with my best friend's brother, no desire to ever have a relationship. I was happy single just wanted someone with similar interests to spend time and try new hobbies - he knew this. Last weekend he told me he had fallen in love with me, and as much as it terrifies me, I'm pretty sure I feel the same. He is the kindest, most thoughtful and genuinely lovely guy I've ever met, and he makes me laugh. But he has also showed me how very very wrong my last relationship was. I am learning so much along the way. And yes, it may not work out, my life is very messy, but he's made me realise I can be happy again and that there are good people out there. So stand strong OP, there is hope and you will be happy again xx

Bumping this for you x

Your right @IdblowJonSnow I dont feel young at all & highly doubt I'd have any interest shown in me esp with 2 toddlers and doubt I'd have time to meet anyone.
But thats besides the point, I just want my children to see a happy mum and a free mum who can make her own decisions each day on where or what to do with my kids. Im really just looking to read other peoples beautiful stories to (a) wallow in my own self pity and (b) just to show me that there's other men out there who are incredible human beings to their partners just to feed me some more encouragement that this isn't "love" whatever love is

My dh makes me laugh which is a miracle at the moment as we're going through some hard stuff. He is good at stuff I'm not and vice versa and respects my strengths and weaknesses. He seeks my opinion and values my knowledge. He always makes my tea just how I like it and gives me surprise hugs if I seem a bit flat. He isn't interested in sex that doesn't float my boat and isn't selfish in bed or out. He listens and is willing to change to make things better if need be.
To be fair I do the same for him, so it's a two way street. .
He could be more patient with the children at times, he doesn't tell me he loves me as much as I'd like (I'd like that often) and he isn't as chatty as I'd like, but that's his personality not a failing, I'm in no doubt that he loves me because it's in his actions all the time and I love him as a package so those bits don't matter. We met in our twenties and I love his integrity and loyalty.