I called the police on DH, who will be informed?

[crocusbloom]

Can anyone tell me what to expect next, if anything?

I don't want to go into exact details of the circumstances around what happened but he left the house on Friday night and I thought he'd gone to his mum's.

I got up on yesterday morning about 7.30am and had missed calls from him at about 2am. I couldn't get hold of him and his last location was at a quarry miles away on the way to his mum's. He didn't take the car and had no wallet or cash.

His phone kept ringing out and I panicked as he has mental health issues and has discussed suicide in the past.

I didn't want to call his mum and worry her because as far as I was concerned he didn't make it there according to his movements through his phone location history.

I really thought he could be dead and called 101. They sent police to me and police to his mum's. I called his mum when they were here but she didn't answer.

Thankfully he was safe and well there and it turns out he'd called a taxi and used his phone to pay. I had never thought to check his back account as I set up all financial things like that for him normally and I hadn't done that one on his new phone. Plus he'd switched his phone off on the way to his mum's which explains the location history stopping at the quarry.

As the police were leaving mine yesterday they said that a report would be written up and passed round the various services which should trigger some involvement with his GP.

Can anyone tell me what is likely to happen next? From being on MN over the years I presume SS may also be alerted? If I hadn't read MN so much I would have been terrified about that previously but now I'm aware they have to look after children's welfare so I'm not too concerned about that as have no worries over them or a visit from SS.

I just have no idea what to expect next, if anything.

Thanks for reading.

Hopefully he will be contacted by mental health services or his gp.
However this really depends on the availability of these services and waiting times/lists, whether he is willing to engage with them and his MH history.
All of this is does also really depend on whether the professionals believe that your concerns for his safety were valid or not (not knowing the exact circumstances I can't offer an opinion on this).

If you have children at home then school safe guarding lead will be notified. This info will not be passed around school and only key people will be aware.

Sorry posted to soon.
As for ss they may want to asses his risk to your dc (because sometimes suicidal parents take dc with them) and whether you are abil to safeguard them from him (if necessary). As long as the dc are safe and happy with you and your being pro active in protecting them from his MH issues (the dc not hearing him threatening suicide ect) which if he's no longer living with you your already doing you shouldn't have an issue with them. Though if he doesn't engage with MH services (if deemed necessary)he may have problems with ss who could insist he only has supervised access. But again it depends on how bad his MH is

Children’s Services will be notified, as will MH team.

Yes children's services will be notified. You will likely get a call from them, (i am a social worker) but as you say its to ensure the children are being protected from the impact of their dads mental health, as well as any acrimony between you both. Good luck op it sounds tough and like you are managing a lot, you did the right thing.

@Thatwentbadly Yes, that was another thought I had about their school.

@Cabinfever10 He has been very engaged with getting help over the past 3+ years but now he feels abandoned I think. He was under a psychiatrist for a short time as they could prescribe different meds after his GP had run out of options. He was speaking to clinical psychologist for almost 2 years but that has now stopped as he wasn't making progress. This may be starting again later on in the year.

He is reluctant to speak to the psychiatrist again as his next step was anti-psychotic drugs and my DH does not want to down this route. He feels like he's at the end of the road for help now - the psychiatrist couldn't help him, or the psychologist, or the OT therapist or the pain specialist physiotherapist. He feels he has nowhere to turn.

To be honest it was only a matter of time before this spilled out our home.

He is living with us.

Sorry @crocusbloom I miss read your op as you and he had split hence him going to his mum's.
It sounds like he has a chronic pain issue and related MH issues which can be very difficult to treat and covid has shut down so many services. Hopefully this will give both MH services and him the push to reingage with each other and find a way forward.
Be honest of with ss they may be able to help you access support for you and your dc.