Surprise pregnancy

[Jude83]

Anyone there who has had a surprise pregnancy at 37. My husband and I met when we were 16. We Have two children who will be 17 and 14 when this surprise comes along. I'm very nervous over this and wondering and hoping I suppose there are others out there in this situation. And hoping it will all be ok.

Congratulations 🎊

Congratulations! 💐 Yes surprise pregnancy at 43 here. Other kids are 10 & 8. Have no advice (yet) but I know how you feel!

I'm the result of a surprise pregnancy at 38.

I'm 32 now.

And, congratulations!

I personally wouldn't want to start again with the ages your other children are. But if this baby is wanted by you and your partner go for it. 37 is still young to have a baby these days.

It's not rare for people to have kids at that age now OP. If you want to, go for it, but of course it's entirely your choice. xxx

Congratulations! My children are very close to yours in age, and DH and I wouldn't mind doing it again. I miss all the little kid cuddles and fun

Congrats... 37 is def not old in my eyes. I had my kids at 31 & 32. Im 35 now. Not sure if I'll go again as its definitely hard work having a 2 & 3 yr old to look after without throwing another one into the mix. Id prob think about it when they are both at school which will take me to almost 37. So just relax and enjoy the pregnancy. Everything will be OK xxxx

It sounds like you are broadly positive and you are hardly old so will all be fine. Congratulations 🎉

Its more of the age gap of the kids i suppose that's concerning me. And the whole start over I suppose

My DC were 12 and 9 when I had my surprise. It was easy. It was if the gap hadn't been there. My older children were a huge help and we all enjoyed her very much. I was worried about starting all over again, but it wasn't a problem

My girls were 15 & 12 when our little one came along. She’s now 16 months and they dote on her. It’s like having 4 adults to entertain her all the time. You’ll be fine! Don’t worry 😊

Congratulations
I had dd2 at 38, she was definitely a surprise didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 5 months.
23 years after dd1 was born.
She's 5 now and one of the best thing to happen to us.

37 is fine, a perfectly normal age now even for a first baby.

I have to say though I wouldn't want to start over with older children that age. Right back to the beginning. For another 18 years. It will affect your older ones big time - postively and negatively! But they certainly will also be the ones making the sacrifices associated with having a baby in the house and the knock on effect on money/time/schedules/holidays... everything.

And the new baby. Essentially, an only child in every practical way if you don't then have another one. Siblings yes, playmates and growing up with another child as your older ones did - no. Think about that too.

I had my first two a 16&19 with my exh.

Then at 30 I had my youngest. He's 3 and the others are 16&13.
They adore their db.

It wasn't as hard as I thought it was going to be. To be honest I am extremely happy I did it, and he fitted in like he was always part of my little family.

Only thing I wasn't prepared for was the needing to wee so much pregnant and I can't deal with wearing bras anymore 😂

How do you feel hitting the reset button when your older ones are close to adulthood and independence?

I have no advice or words of wisdom but Congratulations !