For those who have good relationships with their mums - please help me

[SuperSleepyBaby]

What do you like about your mum? What did she get right?

Does she have flaws you overlook as overall she was good enough?

My own mum has borderline personality disorder and is a functioning alcoholic. I never had a “normal mum” - and I want to be the type of mum that doesn’t damage her children

I have a great relationship with my dd even though my relationship with my own dm wasn't that close. I thoroughly respected my dm..she was the more old style parent who reared us well/ taught us good manners etc but wasn't a very warm person.
With l dd it's different. I don't live in her ear..she is in her 20,s and l respect her independence and her own decisions. ..but we chat a lot/ go shopping together/ she comes to me with issues/ l have always had her friends round and got on well with them. . My advice is just be yourself. The fact you are even thinking about this means you are a good mother. Having an awareness of where we have come from, examining it and coming to terms with it helps us not to make the same mistakes. You are not your mother

My mum raised me on her own, it was only me and her till I was 9.
We have an amazing relationship now, I could tell her literally anything and nothing would shock her.
She has always made time for me, did special things for me (even though we were dirt poor when I was little)
She took an interest in me and in my interests.
Now we are mostly like 2 friends about 85% of the time (she does go into mum mode sometimes!!)

My mum is the sweetest person, she's always listened to me, supported all of my choices (good and bad!), respected my space and independence. My father being the complete opposite ( abusive, cold, alcoholic and narcissist) made me love my her even more.