Not wanting to break lockdown to meet aibu

[amy85]

Am single (feels like forever single) and am on a dating site or two...

Aibu to instantly loose respect/interest in a guy who wants to break lockdown rules to meet...

The amount of guys who message saying they can sneak round to mine...or it's fine because they had a negative test....and they all act like I'm crazy because I want to stick to lockdown rules is ridiculous

I think this is common, most of my single friends have dated/hooked up. People are only human. I wouldn't take the risk myself and would probably give up dating for now.

Yeh I agree it’s common, heard of so many people claiming to be in bubbles with guys they just met or moving in guys they’ve only been dating a few months because they are in bubbles, so most be ignoring lock down rules

Most men aren’t gonna be on dating sites just to chat so if you aren’t looking to meet up atm even socially distanced then I would probably forget about old for now if I was you

At 9pm tonight the roads near me are very busy, not everybody is going shopping lol. Ask yourself, where are they going? Friends and families homes is the answer

I can see from my window before anybody pipes up

I have pretty much given up on old atm but do sometimes log on when the kids are with their dad and fancy a chat/distraction...

Just shocked me how many were willing to break lockdown I guess...and was more shocked about their reactions to me not wanting to I guess

Honestly I’m single. I’ve not bothered with online dating as I assume anyone who is on it would want to break lockdown and meet up. If you don’t want to break lockdown rules then I wouldn’t particularly bother being on there, or at the very least don’t be surprised if men don’t want to just chat online for months until the rules change.

Tbh you can’t date at all now really anyway as you can only meet up with one person outside and that’s for exercise not for social reasons, yeh sure you could for a walk and it technically be classed as exercise but let’s be honest that’s not the reason why people are meeting up, I’ve never thought talking to someone for months was a good idea anyway it creates a false sense of intimacy..

I'm meeting blokes quite often for walks. That's allowed.

I’m single and OLD and I wouldn’t be impressed if a guy wouldn’t meet for a socially distanced walk. What’s the point of “dating” if you don’t actually want to meet someon?

Guess I was too naive when I logged in last night....story of my life 😂😂😂

@Givemeabreak88

Assume you live with a partner?

Perhaps let the site owners know about such men. They ought to be blocked then, though most social media sites are not very responsible when it comes to anything other than not wanting to show the sight of a female nipple.

I’d leave it for now and return when you feel comfortable meeting in person. If you’re active on a dating site right now, other members are going to assume you’re willing to meet. Nobody’s there for god knows how many months of text messaging until restrictions loosen, it would be a waste of time to then meet and discover you didn’t get on.

When I was dating I often had to insist that people I was sleeping with casually wore condoms. I was mystified that so many men just wanted to shag me, a relative stranger, with no condom.

So honestly, I'm not surprised there are lots of men wanting to break lockdown rules! And not wear condoms during the experience

Yeah plenty of people meeting numerous other people. Dates are not part of lockdown rules. I wouldn't want to risk my health or that of others just to meet a stranger, my thinking would be if they're happy to meet up with me they are probably meeting up with a number of others too and that risk is just not worth it for me. But from what I've seen a read there a a lot of people that don't think the same way.

Assume you live with a partner?

Erm nope I’m a single mum actually 🙄 why do you assume I have a partner? Because I said pointless dating at the moment? I’ve been single 4 years, why would I rush to date someone now when you can barely meet up with people anyway, and I’m not the only one who said to leave it for now, especially if you aren’t willing to meet.