Hi,
I've been with my partner for 3 years, we have a child & a home together. I've always had some minor trust issues with him due to when we first met, he was also seeing another woman at the same time. We were not officially together & I had told him I didn't want a relationship, but it was more to do with the lies he had told which made me doubt him when we did get together.
Anyway flash forward a few years & things have mostly been good, the odd argument here & there. But this week I had a message from his cousins ex girlfriend who lives on the other side of the country, saying she had some messages from my partner in which he had sent nude photos of himself. She sent me all the messages, so I could see it all. What started out as a seemingly innocent conversation, she was actually asking for his help in getting her ex boyfriend back as she was still in love with him & was hoping my partner could talk to him about it. Then ended up with my partner flirting & randomly sending nude photos of himself. To be honest there wasn't much on her side, but some of the things he was saying to her I won't repeat on here but you can imagine. It has only all come out because she told her friend, who then told her ex boyfriend & it went on from there.
My partner has been very apologetic, doing all the usual trying to make it up to me, but I cannot shake it from my head. He basically has said he was drunk, which I know he was, but that is no excuse to me. He said he's been feeling down & just wanted some reassurance from someone miles & miles away & there was nothing more to it. He says he never has & never will physically cheat.
My problem is, as I've always had some trust issues with him, will I ever be able to get over this & move on. Or am I just dragging out the inevitable? Should I even forgive him!