I'm a few months into being involved with an older man by 12 years. But as time goes on he's going from feeling like my soul mate to coming across as someone who could potentially irritate me.
I don't know what this behaviour means but he sometimes brings up other women he has had interested in him in the past.
He's never been a man to get around. You can see from his Facebook he's had an 11 year relationship and a marriage when he was younger. He hasn't got pictures with women. Only partners. He's not a flirt online. He does get women liking pictures etc. Old school friends mostly. Many are married. The odd women throws him a compliment and he doesn't respond. But again nothing bad.
Yet he's got these stories. I can usually match them up to the women he's telling me about. For example he told me last night when he went to rescue a dog from his hometown a few months back his cousin tried to get him involved with his friend. She found him attractive and he wasn't interested in her. He doesn't sleep around. He's not had sex for two years and is quite happy to say he's only had a couple of partners. But he still told me she was a lovely looking girl and everything but he just isn't like that and wasn't interested. I worked out straight away she's a women on his Facebook who commented on his rescued dog picture and called him one of her loves. He didn't flirt back he just wrote one line to say the dog was happy. But I clicked on her page and he put a love symbol on her last profile picture exactly when he had said he had met her. So clearly some flirting had happened.
I have no issue with it. She's now in a relationship and neither of them have been reacting to eachothers stuff. Plus it was before me. But why did I need to know?
I fancied him from him working at my house and after he had finished I asked him if he wanted my number. A few weeks into us talking he said the women up the road had offered her number too and he had declined.
I find when he's talking about women that he's not interested in but had a chance he will always say she's a lovely looking girl but....
Now clearly he's wanting me to know these things. But the question is why? I personally feel like it's playground gossip. He's in his 40s and still thinks his new love interest needs to hear about girls he could have shagged or dated.
I don't think he's got bad intentions. He wouldn't be wasting time on me if he had easier options. As I have children I'm not that available for him right now and we've discussed my children eventually being in his life if we have a future. He seems keen and often says about days out and things with them.
So is he being insecure?
Is he trying to impress?
Is he just immature and needs to make me feel he's wanted?
Is he trying to make me feel jealous?
He also often says he doesn't like the done up look. Nails, fake tan, eyebrows etc. He doesn't apparently notice blondes either.
Finally he was honest that two years ago he had a fling with an old school friend. They slept together twice. He hasn't seen her since. I noticed in December he readded her onto his Facebook. He doesn't know I know it's her. But again he's not smart and just from her first name and him saying she had 3 kids gave her away when he readded her. But she was removed 2 days later. He told me and showed me she had been texting him. She was telling him she loved him so much in the message. He blocked her . I questioned why she was saying she loved him. He claims he doesn't know. I half believe him. She's married. Lives hours away. They don't meet. But again. What is this?
Thank you for reading. I think that's basically it. He's mentioning 3 women like this.
He also tells me other people tell him women always like him.
Yet he's choosen me?