AIBU to want to move home

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One of the things these lockdowns has shown me is how lonely my life is without the gym/clubs to go to. I don’t have any real friends in my local area. The sort that will call up or pop round to have a cuppa in my garden or go for a local walk. I spend a lot of time driving to see friends during “normal times”. I’m not sure why I’m living where I’m living. There’s nothing here. Not near a beach. No local friends. Tiny garden. No views. I’ve tried to make local friends but everyone (it seems) grew up here and it has always felt “hard”. My family live a couple of hours away. We have an ok relationship. They’re very tiring and opinionated but if anything goes wrong they are there. They’ve kept in touch during lockdown and in “normal times” they often have my kids for overnights so I can get a break. I’m wondering if I should move closer. It’s not like I’m leaving close friendships behind. I’m at the point where I need to make new friends anyway so maybe I should do that near my family?
AIBU to change my kids schools and uproot everybody just because I feel so lonely. Has anyone else realised their life sucks during lockdown and wants to make a fresh start?

I don't think YBU at all. You have to be happy where you live and your chosen will understand (if not now, when they're older). If it'll make your life easier and happier to move nearer to friends and family I would say go for it!

*children!

Thanks! It’s a tough decision because I haven’t lived at home for 20 years. I just want to be close to loved ones and feel like I’m not constantly scrabbling around to find friends to do things with

How much of an issue would the judgement be if you were closer?

You might find things less intense if you saw them more often for less time. But I’d have low expectations and focus on finding new friends/community if you do move, rather than hoping being near family will solve your current issues.

What’s the area you’re from like? Are there other people who still know there other than family? What are the schools like? Is it easy to meet people?

Do you live with your DC’s dad? If not do they see him?

How old are your DC? That would inform my decision.

That's seems like a pretty good reason to move to me! Especially no views 😆. The younger your children are the easier the move will be, how old are they? What about work, can you do your job anywhere/don't need to work?