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What to do?

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DitheryDot · 22/01/2021 19:49

Name changed for this as didn’t want links to previous (boring but outing!) threads.
I need some help thinking straight and planning the future.

I am late 50s, three DC, two left and set up themselves, the youngest 20 still at home (working). Been with DP 12+ years and can no longer see a future. He drives me mad, always angry & cross about everything, shouts, cannot have a discussion without a disagreement. Always needs to be right. It’s come to the point where I don’t engage in any conversation anymore, keep myself to myself and stay in a different room as much as I can. I don’t think I want to share my life with him anymore. The thought of another 20/30 years like this despairs me. He doesn’t see any issues.

House is worth approx £300k and owned 66:33 to me. If we sold up, I’d get around £200k to start again, with youngest. I’m in the SE so it won’t go very far... I have no income, although have about £25k in savings, until I’m 60 (private pension kicks in).

In an ideal world, I’d stay in my house. I love it. But he would want his share of his money himself. And when youngest has left home, I’d be on my own in a bigger house.

Do I try and make things work, purely from a financial point of view? Could I start again at my age?

Any wise words?

OP posts:
Aquamarine1029 · 22/01/2021 19:51

Of course you can start over, and you should. Living in a very unhappy relationship is just a waste of your life.

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