Feeling lost and over it!

[mummummum10]

Hey,
Feeling kinda lost and not knowing what to do anymore. I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years and we have 3 beautiful children and a home together but one thing... he makes 0 effort on any front.
I have been honest from the start that I want to get married and he would respond he does too, but 2 years into the relationship and a unplanned pregnancy later nothing.
We have had out ups and downs (way, way downs) but recently everything is like a chore to him. He goes to work, comes home and sits! That is it.
I feel now everything has fizzled out and after the birth of our second child I was honest again, I really want to move forward with our relationship and take the next steps, again nothing!
Now we have been together 10 years . At the beginning of the week he said a surprise is coming and it wasn't at all what I expected, it was a bubble machine for the kids that farts, and to be honest I feel frustrated.
He has an excuse for everything and the final straw was I should ask him!
Am I right that maybe its time to part ways because right now I am only talking to him if it is about the kids because I am so irritated, and we live in the same god damn house! or am I asking for way too much.

Help!

If you look at it from his point of view he has had 3 children from you and you didn't mind not being married. You made it clear to him you wanted marriage but your words didn't match your actions. He has free wheeled along knowing you wouldn't challenge anything or put your foot down. You have had 3 children and a house but you have been left with little financial protection as you are still not married. He has got lazy, you say he does nothing and you are still not where you want to be.....married. If this is not the life you want then its time to move on and build a life with someone who actually wants to be married. Be mindful of how your situation may leave you if you choose to separate. You may need to talk to someone professional to see what you are entitled to being unmarried. Alternatively try and fix your relationship and ask him to marry you? I wish you all the best OP as 3 young children are involved and a happy mum is the best mum to have.

If he is so useless and lazy why on earth would you be complaining about not being married?

Also (re: a proposal) this is not 1850 and you are not a commodity waiting to be picked. Surely you know that.

Skip the wedding and divorce and make steps leave the useless man and have a better life.

You don't sound particularly happy.
And it sounds like it's more than because he hasn't proposed.
Why do you want to get married?