I have a crush

[Themanofmydreams]

On my colleague! It keeps getting stronger every time I see him. He's married and so am I so nothing can happen between us but I 'feel' there is something there when we talk to each other.
I'm trying to switch off. Stop listening to love songs and just try to stop thinking about him but it's so hard it's driving me mad. He even appears in my dreams. He's a lovely guy and I'm a nice lady and neither of us I know would dream of doing anything and hurting anyone but I just can't get him out of my head.

This hasn't happened to me before in my marriage. Been married 10 years.

Do you see him in person at work each day?

If online then maybe more flirty as bored at home with pandemic?

How long have you had feelings?

It's ok to have a crush just don't act on it

Oh crushes are HORRIBLE!!

Its like being in love without any of the fun stuff! I had one about 5 years ago on an old school friend that I ran into through work and I just couldnt stop thinking about him. And, due to work, I kept seeing him. Then the best thing ever happened......

He was helping set up something at my work and there was a monumental pong, I mean retch inducing stink. His colleagues were pissing themselves as I was trying not to vomit and were sayinng "Oh that a proper DAVE!" Turns out his farts were famous for being utterly vile.

Cured my crush overnight! So maybe focus on things that would turn you off. Does he have stink breath? Or looks like he doesnt brush his teeth? Or imagine sogging on the the sofa and he takes his shoes off and ....wow......the SMELL!

Whatever turns you off, imagine him with that!

I feel for you, I’m going through the same thing.

I’ve had a crush on my colleague for about 18 months and it drives me mad. I’ve worked with him for a while and it came out of nowhere, one day I was hit with the most ridiculous teenage crush. It does feel like there is chemistry but I think it is my brain looking for signs he likes me, like it did when I fancied a boy who didn’t even know I existed when I was 13.

I’ve never mentioned anything, but it is a running joke amongst my colleagues that everybody is in love with him, and he doesn’t know. That makes me feel much better. He is one of life’s really good people, and he just happens to be ridiculously handsome, stylish and skilled at pretty much everything. How could I be immune?!

I just try to keep it very professional. I don’t work with him on a task unless I need to and try and chat mainly about work. The crush is very annoying but I’m sure it will end, eventually.

@LionelMessy I don't see him everyday. I've had feelings for about 3 or 4 months now and they have grown as I've got to know him more.
I don't chat much online and we definitely aren't flirting it's just more of a real friendly concern for each other. I'm too shy to make a move anyway (not that I would) and there's no opportunity anyway which is a good thing really. I just feel drawn to him. He's probably about 10 years older than me.

You should try to change your department /job. Get away from him

Oh don’t change job because you have a crush, that’s ridiculous. Just do not act on it. Really see it for what it is.

Crushes make the world turn.

Nothing wrong w a crush. Just don’t let it get out of hand (maybe knock off the live songs.)

Love songs!

I would pay for a crush at the moment.... Even if unrequited. I'm actually worried it will never happen again. Lucky you!

I'm glad to see these answers. I see my crush as harmless phone particularly during all this covid business. It's just a fantasy, nothing more.

I guess because there's nothing much to look forward to at the mo it has been a major distraction. I don't want to leave my job because I really like working there. I'm just scared of it starting to become obvious because I get all nervous and panicky whenever he comes near me which I never used to

Crushes are horrible when you can’t do anything with them! I do think affairs start when crushes become flirting, to inappropriate friendships and moving on from there, so please be careful you don’t end up in hot water by acting on it.