Stupid question- could you start a relationship by asking for separate bedrooms?

[pledgethelight]

Obviously it's completely hypothetical atm. I've been single for 10 years. The last time I slept in the same bed as someone was about 5 years (platonically) and I felt so stifled. Now I'm worried I am too set in my bad habits.

I am such a bad sleeper. I have to have my Lumie lamp and white noise on. Then on a bad night I toss and turn for hours. I don't have a side, I roll from one to the other! I actually woke up this morning lying diagonally

Am I being ridiculous here?

I am currently laying next to my DP who is asleep. He doesn't snore or take all the covers but by fuck I want my whole bed back. We don't live together but when he says over I just can't sleep. I want to be in the middle of a cool bed but instead I'm boiling and having to stick to one side.

..yes, I was single for 6 years.

I used to believe the stereotype of a couple in seperate beds being unhappy... Til my OH and I moved in together 4 years ago.

We spend maybe 2 nights a week in the same bed, the rest of the time we quite happily take it in turns in the spare room depending on who goes to sleep latest/who's not sleeping well. It's been a godsend and we are both happier and better rested for it. And we just make sure we make time in the mornings/evenings to curl up together in one bed or the other!

So if we split up now and I started a new relationship with someone and they asked me if I'd be okay with it, I would. I think quite a lot of people would - but it'll be luck of the drawer if they've had an experience which makes them understand why!

Luck of the *draw ugh!

It’s not something l could imagine because l love sleeping with people and feeling someone beside me. First and foremost my bed is a friendship bed. It’s not just about sex, l prefer day time or early evening sex anyway. But l do understand that you have difficulties with that.

Would you consider a “mothership bedroom” with another room having your “escape bed” that you can retreat to if you are having a bad night?