Just wanted some opinions as I don't know if I'm being insensitive here or not.
Our situation currently is: I'm working from home (I mainly do anyway regardless of covid). I run a business and it's bloody hard work at the moment. I feel quite stressed that we may not survive this pandemic (the business, not the human race) I have 2 kids (8 and 11) who are both at home and I'm attempting to help them with the mountain of work they keep getting sent home in between my own work.
I keep the house running, make sure the fridge is stocked, ensure all schoolwork is completed and sent back on time. I do the washing, the cooking, and keep the house clean. As it's my own business I don't technically have set hours although ideally, I do need to be working between 9-5 as that's when our clients are working however I often find myself working into the night to keep up with the basic admin.
My OH works full time in a job he despises and has been looking for another job for quite some time now. Obviously the pandemic hasn't helped as a couple of offers he'd had near the time of the first lock down got pulled because of the situation with a view to revist when life returns to normal. He was furloughed on full pay, which he obviously loved, during the first lockdown and to be fair to him he was a big help to have around in terms of helping the kids with their schoolwork and doing bits around the house.
This time around though his boss has taken the decision not to furlough staff and he has to work as normal.
He's constantly moping about the place when he's not at work saying how low he feels. His job's getting him down, he really hates it. Sometimes he sits and just stares saying how he wishes his life was different. I should add that usually (pre this job and covid) he is a chirpy happy guy, always there with a joke and smile and usually very positive.
I'm finding it increasingly difficult to not snap at him and I don't know if I'm being unfair. I've tried asking if he wants to talk about it but he just says no/ i hate my job/ i hate my life etc
Inside I want to scream that WE ALL FEEL LOW at the moment, he should just be grateful he has a job, that I'm feeling the stress of keeping everything going and making sure everyone else is sorted AND trying to keep a business afloat.
To top it all off he doesn't contribute much to household bills at the moment as he has quite a few debts which he's working to pay off but it means that at present I pay about 85% of all household bills despite us both bringing in around the same wage so I feel like all financial responsibility falls on me.
How would you handle this?