Does anyone else's husband/partner constantly sulk when they don't get their own way?
My partner does this all the time, I've only got to say no and it's like I've burned his favourite pub down.
He is incredibly touchy feely and constantly pestering me for sex or physical contact but this is something I just can't do right now.... (before I got with him I was rapped by someone I went on a date with, I never told anyone as I was very ashamed for putting myself in a dangerous position that left me vulnerable and although I know now that it wasn't my fault its just something I don't want to report or discuss with anybody else for. I started dating my partner around 4 months after and For the next two years after the incident I was very sexual and thought I enjoyed being intimate but after we had our first child that all changed, the thought of him near me made me feel sick and I didn't enjoy sex at all in fact I used to lay there pretending I was enjoying myself when really I was wanting it to be over. Our sex life became less and less but his needs became very apparent they wasn't being met for example he became very touchy feely and would grope me and attempt to start up something every night, I would constantly push him off and he wouldn't stop until I would get angry which then made him sulk like a big baby. Even more years later its still the same I just cant stand the thought of doing anything and It's hugely impacted our relationship, I have told him of my past and how I feel yet he still tries to force himself on me even when I've said no, he then plays the victim when I say no means no and tries to make out he didn't mean anything by it.
We argue constantly, he is a great dad and does do the cooking and works which I'm grateful for but I find him extremely selfish and self centred. He doesn't seem to have any ambition in life and is happy to just do nothing ever unless it's football related.
His currently off sulking because I don't want to go bed right this minute, I told him no because I know you will try it as he kept winking at me (yuck) and he kicked off saying he wasn't going to.... How am I supposed to know tonight would be the one night he doesn't 😕
I really don't know what to do.... I know I needed to vent so apologies for the long post. We have been together 10 years i know my past hurts and I should seek help but I can't afford to go private NHS mental health services around here are very underfunded and poor and tbh it's s still something I just don't want to talk about.
He is just incredibly needy and sulky all the time and with lockdown two kids and him I'm literally going insane.
Sorry for the rant...