Has anyone left a partner/husband and completely cut contact?

[Fightingback16]

Bit of back story, left husband after 10 years, very emotionally abusive marriage. Had a mental breakdown and lots of support so in a much better place now.... even have new boyfriend who is completely the opposite.

I left my husband in 2019, sore him for around 9 months whilst trying to unsuccessfully co-parent and now haven’t seen him physically in about 13 months. It was suggested by my support worker to stop seeing him as I could not heal. Every occasion we had contact he would abuse me.
Did see him the other day on a court video call but had to slide the browser over so blocked his face.

He is apparently finding the way the relationship ended as hard. Probably because he has no one to bully but it’s the right thing for me. Me on the other hand having that break in my fear has done me so much good.

Has anyone else done this, completely cut contact after leaving and never look back? It’s as if I’d never loved him, I have never had
a feeling of wanting to go back. Once I got that gap to escape I ran.

Child contact is in court and it’s looking like will need a fact finding trial. He hasn’t seen dd for 13 months so I’m guessing I will need to see him eventually, but will be stronger then.

I just find crazy that I was married then one day I ran and never wanted to see his face again.

Definitely not the same but I was in an abusive relationship for years and when I finally had the strength to end it I literally never spoke to him again. He then stalked me and was arrested multiple times for stalking and threats on my life. I had PTSD and still struggle years later but it is better each year.

Hi @ErickBroch I also suffered terrible with PTSD and was told to stop seeing him and it helped me so much. But yeah it still gets me at times.

Plenty of people do have no contact but cutting contact for his child is wrong unless social services are involved. This isn't about you it's about a child's right to see their parent and it can horribly backfire

Contact centre or trusted friend for handover is the norm

I have had no contact with my ex. I met him by chance recently and he was a stranger to me. I couldn't believe i had actually been married to him. We had no children which I'm sure would have made a difference.

Yep me. Communication only through solicitors. He was an misogynistic, lazy, and emotionally abusive arsehole and I haven't looked back. My divorce is almost done after 3 years of hell with him being an obstructive prick, and the light at the end of the tunnel is getting closer .

2x exh's here!
Ended our marriage on a Sunday night, Monday I went to work and told him to be gone before I got home. He was. Never seen him since. No dc or home to sell.
Other one - saw him in court for dc arrangements.. Never seen /heard from him in over 5 years. Dc went nc with him then so no need. He didn't even text when the left his home!

Yes, I did this, but we didn't have dc so it's a bit different. I walked past him in the street about 10 years after we had divorced but I wasn't even sure it was him. So weird.

I was with someone for 9 years. He became very abusive towards the end, drinking and getting violent. I ditched him and never looked back. I later heard from a friend he'd been smoking heroin towards the end. It didn't make me feel sorry for him, just realise I had a lucky escape.

We broke up around 15 years ago. He tried to friend me on Facebook a few years back but I blocked him. I still have nightmares about him.

BUT we didn't have children.

Yes social services are involved, it’s all being done the correct way.

DD was old enough to decide when she wanted to spend time with him, so yes, complete no contact from the day we left. And it's still wonderful 5 years on!

Yes, I left my ex after finding out he cheated and cut contact totally - we had been together for nearly 10 years. It was a bit easier as he wasn't father to my DC and they were old enough (teen) to see what a nasty individual he had become. It wasn't just the cheating, but a build up of other stuff too.

The night I left I blocked him on everything, chucked him off all our shared accounts for things (like Spotify/Netflix etc) and dealt with his parents with regards to other stuff. Then when I completed my house move I cut contact with his parents. Don't get me wrong, they were nice enough people and supportive, but I didn't want to continue any further links at all.