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JellyNump · 28/10/2007 21:30

ex H has been on the phone. Last week he called to say dr prescribed anti depressants and suggested he see a psycologist not a councillor as he was previously seeing and could he have DD for a day when I was at work. I said i wasn't sure if it was appropriate for him to have her if he was on the pills to which he agreed and said he wasnt going to tkae them. Just phoned me in tears saying his head is messed up by the pills and yesterday he smashed up half his flat so cant see DD for a while as he gets mood swings. Said he was really upset that he hurt me and is sad that he lost me and DD (but to be honest i am happier now) Its all getting a bit scary, he had the habit about a mont hago of 'dropping in' to see me at owrk (in the travel agency) which I managed to stop as i said it wasnt appropriate and i'd get into trouble. Feeling a bit 'suffocated' now by it. He then asked if my phone would be on tonight so he can call if he needs to as he is so messed up and apparently i'm the only one who will listen to him and will tell him what he needs to do. I said he should really be able to do this himself now.
Emailed my solicitor about it as im not really sure what to do.

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ChipButty · 28/10/2007 21:33

Ex-H. EX. EX. EX. Sorry to be blunt but he's not your problem any more.

JellyNump · 28/10/2007 21:35

yes i realise that, but because he still has access to DD i cant stop him calling me as we were supposed to be taking her out tomoro, but now we are so not

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ChipButty · 28/10/2007 21:37

Sorry.
Fix a time that he can call you - I certainly wouldn't leave your phone on all night. Personally, I wouldn't permit my child to be alone with him at the moment. He needs to speak to his GP again and get himself sorted.

LuckyUnderpants · 28/10/2007 21:50

Hi Nelly it sounds like he needs professional help and possibly needs to speak to a councillor, i would encourge him to go back and see his GP who can refer him to one, it is good that he realises his behaviour is unreasonable enough to not be alone with your dd. Does he have a friend he can turn to to unload his problems on because he is putting you under tremendous stress by turning to you all of the time with his troubles, what about his family? do they know what he is going through? maybe if you spoke to his mother or one of his friends and explained, they might be able to talk to him and take the pressure away from you, i hope he sorts himself out for the sake of your dd, good luck.

LuckyUnderpants · 28/10/2007 21:51

Nelly? opps i ment Jelly

JellyNump · 28/10/2007 22:05

Well he was moved from councillor to psycologist or poss psychiatrist, not sure which, by GP.
TBH his family ALL live in LA LA Land, if there isnt something new and dramatic happening they wouldnt know what to do!

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