Divorce

[DonnaMoulding1983]

Hi, my partner is currently going though a divorce. His ex started the process. At the decree nisi stage, it was ordered that he pays her divorce costs which at that point was only £160 for the divorce application fee. It has now been over 6 weeks and 1 day so decree absolute could be applied for but she has claimed financial orders. She has mentioned mediation but she has not arranged this yet. There are no assets/property and from what we can see only his pension to discuss. However she may well be thinking she might be entitled to spousal maintenance! They have 2 children aged 8 and 12 for who he pays maintenance for through CMS and are currently going through courts to secure his access as his access was consistently cancelled or reduced.
Where does that leave us with the divorce?? Any help much appreciated. Thanks

She'd be a fool not to get the financial order sorted. He need to show you both the respect you both deserve and knuckle down, get his financial matters recorded, get mediation sorted and get the whole thing finished with. I hope you and him have wills and powers of attorney sorted?

He is trying to get it sorted. He has all the details about his pension ready and waiting for mediation. Mediation that she is meant to be arranging. He is going to initiate the mediation himself now to get the ball rolling. They've been separated for 5 years, both want the divorce so no reason why ex would be dragging her feet. She was quick to TELL him to get th details of his pension and now wants to keep him waiting. Unfortunately, it's all about control.

If it’s all about control, he could have divorced her, in the interim 5 years...

Control for her....not for him.

Yes I know what you meant. He could have initiated proceedings too. And could have organised mediation etc

Was he keeping his options open?

I don't know why he never initiated the divorce before. Now he knows he can organise mediation despite being the respondent, he is going to do this.

Can’t you ask him? Instead of calling her controlling?

My mediation has ground to a halt as dc off school and it can't occur whilst anyone else in house.

If she has kids to homeschool, mediation is not a priority.

Mediation was first spoken about 2 months ago and it was left that she would arrange it. Because he hasn't heard anything he contacted one himself who got hold of his ex. She wasn't happy and said he can't arrange mediation! She informed the mediator that she had already contacted one. He emailed his ex asking for the details of the mediator she had contacted so he could look them up etc and asked if she knows when he might be contacted...she hasn't replied. His mediator has said she will contact her again at the end of the week if he doesn't hear anything back from either his ex or the mediator that she says she has contacted.

Still no response to the invitation to mediate. He is planning on going to a Miam alone and will get his certificate. Does he then need to complete Form A?

hi
My wife of 36 years told me January 23rd 2021 that she was having an affair and moved out our home. She said the affair started in September 2020. It started during the pandemic and she moved out during lockdown.

Anybody have a simliar situation. Im concerned that she can move back into the house. Under normal circumstances she can. But During Covid??

Any avice would be appreciated

You need to start your own thread walker rather than derail the OPs one.

Hi,

I am launching a “bill” request as the legal system needs to change for mums whom are taking on a lion share of raising children, please support and sign. www.change.org/u/me?source_location=my_petitions_dropdown

@Citadella25

It's unlikely the people will read to the end of a zombie thread so won't see this. Start a new thread if you want traffic.

And personally I'd never click on a link that's not verified.

Thanks for the tip “thigsdogetbetter” ! If you look at the Change website their are fully legible.

I will start a new blog. :)