Is this controlling

[Donutsandjam]

So Saturday night oh decided we should order a take away, he wanted a burger and i said i wanted a pepperoni pizza.
Oh orderd the food and ordered my pizza coverd in peppers even tho id already said i just fancy a plain pepperoni one this time.. he said well I might want a slice.
It put me off and I only ate a little.
He orderd the food with my card details saying he would transfer the money to pay
He earns 33.7 times more than me
Whist eating I casually asked how myself it came to
Then he had a go saying dont u trust me i will put the money in, calling me saying im tight when i really was just asking how much as there was no hidden agenda on my part.

It may be one conversation but I'll think you will find all those of us in decent carrying relationships have never had a conversation like that. I certainly haven't in many decades.

He earns 33.7 times more than you??

Is that reason enough to leave someone??

You can leave someone for any reason.

He was controlling and manipulative. Selfish for ordering something you didn't want as your meal. Manipulative to try and make out you were being tight when clearly, he was.

Red flag.

@Harmarsuperstar

He earns 33.7 times more than you??

Did he work that out and tell you just to be smug? Or did you work it out because he is a tight bastard and you wanted to make the point?

The food thing alone is probable enough to leave him for. I mean even a ten year old would have the basic empathy to know that other people want to eat different things to them and order accordingly. He is emotionally stunted and that shit never changes.

@saraclara

It was an unpleasant conversation, but really MN? LTB? Based on this one exchange?

If the OP has got to the point of posting here, it's probably just one example of a pattern of behaviour rather than a one off incident in an otherwise perfect relationship.

Yes we worked it out together laughing about it i have just finished training and working as a dinner lady at the minute until a ta role comes up

If my other half earnt 33.7 times my income he would offer to pay for all takeaways. I wouldn't even have to ask. He also would never basically order himself two meals and expect me to settle for something I didn't want.

My abusive ex however would do all of these things, including claiming he had to use my card because he didn't want to get scammed and as I had less money it wouldn't matter.

You deserve much better than this.