How many x's at end of message?

[User17292127]

Could I do a straw poll of how many x's to put at the end of a message to a male friend? According to my DD there is etiquette about this and that it's usual to put two or three x's for messages to friends. I don't ever put x's at the end of messages to male friends because I wouldn't kiss them in RL and wouldn't want them to think I'm flirting with them. Yet DH receives messages from a female acquaintance with four x's. Is she flirting or am I in the wrong?

I think it depends on the person, I'm not a big x sender, I usually send them to people who send them to me, therefore dh rarely gets them.

I think it's generational as in maybe there's an etiquette with teenagers? (God I feel old saying that and I'm only 30)

I doubt the friend of your DH is flirting, I'd guess she sends xs to everyone. And you're not wrong not sending them.

I don't think there's any set rule or reason for number is X's. Myself, I only put them on messages to my gf (only two of them mind). I've got a male customer who puts X's on his business messages to me, he's the only one that does, but I'm pretty sure he isn't flirting with me!

I only ever put one to anyone, friends or partner. I can't be doing with multiple x's.

I use one x if I'm making a point or if I'm pissed off but trying not to be mean, two if I actually like the person (as opposed to just being acquaintances), three or four or more if that person does it. And I lose the x's completely if we're having a long conversation. Although I must say I only ever do them for female friends for fear of any male friends getting the wrong impression - for men I use smiley faces instead.

It varies. My boyfriend and I put 3. Most friends I vary between none and 3 (3 would only be when I am feeling particularly affectionate towards them - if they have told me about something bad happening say). But this would be to male and female friends equally.

One female friend we always put loads. Not quite sure how we started this but now we are stuck with it..... 🤷‍♀️

So I don’t think there is a hard and fast rule. But I don’t see x’s as flirting. The only time I have given it much thought really was when boyfriend and I increased from 1 to 3 - I saw that as our relationship stepping up a gear (I realise that makes me sound idiotic and like I am about 12, but I genuinely did!)

Its different for young people. Do what you feel comfortable with.

Oh minefield. Just phone them instead to save thinking about it. And don't say 'love you' by accident as you hang up.

I don't feel the need for any, but it seems that 2 or 3 is usual in the messages I receive.

This morning I got one from a colleague: Logging on in 2 mins xxx
Not entirely sure any were needed or relevant.

To male and female friends it's 2 xx, for my OH and kids it's 3 xxx