Fear my relationship is failing

[Sarapq2]

We have been together 5 years lived together for 4, we broke up briefly and during that 4 months he had a drunken night with an old gf but to be honest it was one night and after she treated him like crap.
We got passed that and decided to try again but lockdowns have started to get to us both, he is in a crap job which he knows he lucky to have but he hates it and money is tight .
We both want to stay together but I'm not sure how I can make our lives better.
Sex is a no go right now as he is stressed out with other factors in our life and I'm not very good at getting him interested in me that way

Sounds like you are both stressed . Do you want this relationship to continue ? Does it make you happy ?

On the whole yes I am happy. I can't imagine life without him .

This is a phase then, a response.

Manage it.

Dont go down over it.

Use your intelligence to think of ways to get thro it. Have time apart. Make an effort when together. Accept that this is a bad patch and actively don't make it worse.

What jumped out at me is that you struggle to get his interest in a sexual sense, he isn't having sex with you now, because stress, but he managed to shag his ex ok.

It feels like you are flogging a dead horse here. Is he a prize worth winning?

That was 2 years ago he was with his ex .
We had sex up until a few months back

I will watch this thread with interest OP because I am in a similar boat (except no split/sleeping with the ex to contend with) just an underlying feeling that we might be failing and his interest is waning and sex is not quite right. Thanks for posting.

The split was imposed on us after his mental break down , during this time this woman came back in to his life, she befriended me and I honestly thought she was helping us but within a few weeks I realised that she had other intentions.
But damage was done by then.
When we got back together we were great , but trying for a baby put a strain on us.
It's my fault we can't have kids but after that sex became regimented .

It failed big time , he stayed in a hotel last night and now he drunk at a friends house.
He won't answer my calls said I was evil maybe I am

What happened that made him stay in a hotel,your not evil x

I thru him out.
As far as I'm concerned it's over .
He has hurt me , his family etc but do you know what's funny the girl he originally stayed with after the hotel came in to him ( she's told her best friend this, in fact it was on fb ) and they had sex !
I'm upset as , he won't have sex with me but he did with her and she nothing special

This relationship is rubbish, and it should be over.

I'm aware of that and it is , I'm no one's sloppy seconds especially when she has been with at least 6 men in the last year

You deserve so much better xx