I just need to vent. I don’t have anywhere else to vent. I’m abroad with my (ex) husband who is military so away from family and friends and just feel so frustrated. I recently left him, 5 months ago, I’ve posted on here a few times with different moans lol. You guys help me get through it a lot.
I recently posted about how he had been going out on 1,2 maybe 3 dates a week as well as being in what seems to have got serious with a girl back home who FaceTimes him 5/6 times a day. He talks very loudly on these calls so I can hear him (don’t know whether it’s intentional to make me ‘jealous’ which I am certainly not by the way she is welcome to him) and I have heard him talking to her about when they have kids!! He had planned to take my kids out on a day trip with her and her kids when we were supposed to go back home at Christmas of which I hit the roof because he had never met her and I didn’t want him introducing the kids to every girl that came along, I asked him to get to know her first and be sure it was a long term thing ( which I knew it wasn’t going to be because he was still shagging about over here!)
I caught him on FaceTime with her with my little girl sat with him (4 years old) joining in the call I asked her to come away and explained to him that I wasn’t comfortable with this. Again I would like to keep the children out of all of the inbetween shit as to not confuse them.
Fast forward 4 weeks he has found another girl in the uk who he likes better and “needs to get rid of the other one!” Although the other one “is rich so he might chose her” and “he doesn’t want to get rid completely he wants to keep her as a backup in case this one doesn’t work”
Anyway....He FaceTimes her 4/5 times a day now.
A family member of mine knows her and noticed that he had been interacting with her on social media and informed me that although this girl was “trying to sort herself out” she was not someone I would want my kids around, has a bit of a drug and drink problem. Or did at least. Obviously this set off alarm bells for my kids sake. I mentioned it to him and just said I don’t know how true it is but obviously for the kids sake just be wary please. He laughed at me like I was ridiculous and said “i would never put my kids at harm I’m not stupid”
..sorry I should mention that he always goes out of the way into the bedroom on the calls which I appreciate. I nipped out of the house for 30 minutes last night for work purposes and when I came home he was sat in the living room on FaceTime with the girl with me eldest daughter sat in there too...not on the call but I was still annoyed. He knew it and went into the bedroom.
My middle daughter was about to go in there and I said oh babe he’s just on a call just leave him be for a bit, and she replied he’s been on the phone all night and he brought it in here (her bedroom) and told us all to say hello to his friend.
My heart sank because he clearly had no respect for my wishes as the mother to his kids, I feel like he isn’t thinking of the girls introducing them to these girls I feel like with our current situation, mummy and daddy don’t love each other anymore, but we still all love together, they sleep in different rooms, but we won’t live together when we go home, and then daddy is always talking to these girls. I just feel like their little head must be so confused.
I approached him about this and he denied that it happened.
The girls then said he let DC take the phone off of him and talk to the girl and also that he used to ask them say “hello” to the other girl too.
I’m at my wits end with him. He has no respect for anyone but himself and I just feel like they are an accessory in his game to impress the girls.
Thankyou for listening to my rant xx
[Post edited by MNHQ to remove RL names]