So I have a lovely newish dp. Seeing each other circa 6 months, both separated with kids, and spend quite a bit of time together on our child free days. Going well.
He has a hobby which involves collaborating with others virtually. Male and female globally. He's hopeful that one day this hobby will be professional so invests time and money into it. Fine with me- makes him happy.
One of his co-collaborators is female- mid 30s- single. Seems really nice. She sent him chocs from her home country for Xmas which I thought was a sweet gesture.
He got them yesterday- slow Xmas post obviously. He then said he was going to send her a bunch of flowers.
In all honesty this made me feel weird! And I vocalised that. In my mind, flowers by post are for romantic interests, or close family. There are exceptions of course, if someone is ill, just had a baby, died etc.
If I received flowers from a male friend, I would think it was a bit odd. I don't think my mum would be comfortable with my dad sending a female friend flowers, nor do I think my dp would be happy if I just received random flowers from a guy (even though he said it wouldn't bother him).
He says that it's sad that I think this way. I agree that it probably is sad, but that culturally flowers from a guy to a female friend is usually perceived as a romantic gesture (outside the occasions I've listed above).
We had a bit of a disagreement last night, and I'm a bit sad that he can't see why I'm annoyed at him wanting to send flowers to another woman!