Am I the asshole or is this weird?

[AzaleaMania]

My husband is extremely heavy footed, he stomps when he walks. It winds me up several times a day but I have never said anything because firstly he's not doing it on purpose and secondly he doesn't take any kind of even implied criticism well and usually gets defensive. I just grind my teeth silently.
However, today I just came out with it and said "can you please stop stomping around". I wasnt shouty but my tone was a mixture of desperate and irritated.
He then went on a long shouty rant at me that included the following :
He wasn't stomping
If he was stomping he can't help it as hes tired
"I am a failure as a husband because of this"
"I am also a failure because this is a small issue and I let it get to me like this"
"I am trying to be a better husband"
He got quite shouty and then sort of ratty and then kind of sad or something himself.

I was like "sorry but I just asked you not to stomp around Ive literally never mentioned it before and suddenly you are saying that it's made you feel like a failure"?!
He claimed I say about his stomping ALL. THE. TIME. I don't?! I have literally been biting my tongue for months and months every day about it?! Unless I have been sleep talking (which actually wouldn't surprise me).

I just thought the whole exchange was weird. But am I the asshole?!

He's the asshole.

And very, very precious based on this. I couldn't live with someone this defensive. It's tiresome.

I think the bigger question is why are you putting up with someone who cannot take constructive criticism without guilt tripping you and throwing a hissy fit?

I mean is he five years old?
He sounds like one of those 'vulnerable narcissists'. Is he generally very 'the world's out to get me' ?

My bet is that every one else has told him he stomps. Work colleagues, mates, family growing up etc etc.

So he is sensitive about it and can actually hear you thinking about it .

I think the only way to deal with people who don't like criticism or who don't take it well, is to start any sentence criticising them with 'You won't like me saying this but I need to tell you anyway...'

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Eh?

No he's not a 'world os out to get me person' but he IS. ALWAYS. RIGHT. and we've had 'conversations' in the past about how he interrupts whatever I say (literally on every subject imaginable) with his opinion which is ALMOST ALWAYS the totally opposite one to mine and why he is right about it. It is draining and results in me actually expressing very little to him.
However he's not horrible! He does do nice things and cooks and is kind with the children.

Eee...yeah I stick with my narcissist comment. That's what their kind do, they disagree with everything in order to wear you down. Talking over you and always needing to be right (and guilt tripping you in your earlier convo...) ...not looking good :/ so what if he is nice to the kids? He's driving you round the bend!

I don't know if it's help but you could try using I statements. They're a less confronting way of talking to a person about a behaviour that impacts you. Some people interpret anything negative as blaming. I statements have when you do/don't do (the behaviour), I feel (impact on you) An example could be "When you stomp I feel really on edge". Or "when you interupt me I feel shut down and ignored".