why can't I get a decent man!!

[xLoveMEorNOTx]

I have be single 4 maybe 7/8 years but in that time I connected to a dear friend and we did the deeds and have been on and off 4 four years i love him dearly and do not know what to do(he has children from previous relationship)....i don't want to be involved with someone if he had feelings 4 partner because I will walk away as I don't want to be with someone that would hurt his kids and partner that way ....but i know I love him and I would walk away if he would tell me so x

Have you spoken to him about how you're feeling?

You can't get a decent man because you've invested all your emotional energy into a shit unavailable one. I can't work out if he has a partner at the moment or not. But either way, he is not available to you for more than shagging and ego boasting. Your attachment to him is blocking any chance of you healing and being ready to find a decent man.

While he's blocking the doorway, no one else is going to be able to get in.

Hold on, do you mean yore this Brooke's burning the side?

Can't you make a decision for yourself?

Why don't you decide it's not working for you and walk away? Why will you only walk away if he tells you to?

You have agency in your own life you know.

Hold on, do you mean yore this Brooke's burning the side?

Good grief!

Do you mean you're this bloke's bit on the side!

I would hazard a guess from the little we know that it's because you don't know or state your boundaries, and you post on MN to solve your relationship problems rather than talking to your partner.

Am I miles off the mark? Have you had a serious talk with him about this?

@WhereHaveAllTheUsernamesGone That was a spectacular autocorrect!

It was, wasn't it!